Premise: I'm a really shy, introverted guy who rarely takes the initiative to speak to someone, I have very poor social skills and I'm bad at communicating.
My current relationship has is long-distance and has been going on for 2.5 years so far. We're both 25. We see each other every two or three months and skype every day when we're apart. It's a complicated premise to start with. On top of that, this relationship hasn't been going well for quite a while. She gets angry at me really quickly and when we're together we end up having smaller or bigger arguments every few days. She also suffers from depression, which makes me end up being there for her, but her rarely there for me. She's also a lovely, good-looking girl and I used to really, really love her. I'm not so sure anymore.
I don't want to blame the relationship's downfall only on her. She usually gets angry because of me "being distant" or "not showing enough emotions". She is very insecure, has daily mood swings and needs constant reassurance and affection. It's pretty obvious at this point that I'm not the right guy for her, and she's not the right girl for me. We both cling to each other.
This week at my university I met a person [20F] whom I instantly grew fond of, and it made me realise how wrong my relationship feels at the moment. Even though I have not been unfaithful, I feel really guilty. I actually doubt that she feels the same way about me, but the fact that she initiated a conversation, that we managed to talk for a long time (within a group of people, never alone) and that we have tons of common interests makes me totally blind. I spend every second of the day thinking of her, hoping that she likes me too. And it feels really wrong.
I'm really afraid of quitting 2.5 years of relationship for someone I just met, who is possibly not even interested. I feel like I should appreciate what I have now, get over myself, sort out the issues with my girlfriend and work on improving our relationship. I don't want to break her heart, it would devastate her, especially in the state she's in now.
TL;DR: My current relationship is not going well, and I just met another girl I really like. I have no idea what to do. I feel like I have to act fast.
My current relationship has is long-distance and has been going on for 2.5 years so far. We're both 25. We see each other every two or three months and skype every day when we're apart. It's a complicated premise to start with. On top of that, this relationship hasn't been going well for quite a while. She gets angry at me really quickly and when we're together we end up having smaller or bigger arguments every few days. She also suffers from depression, which makes me end up being there for her, but her rarely there for me. She's also a lovely, good-looking girl and I used to really, really love her. I'm not so sure anymore.
I don't want to blame the relationship's downfall only on her. She usually gets angry because of me "being distant" or "not showing enough emotions". She is very insecure, has daily mood swings and needs constant reassurance and affection. It's pretty obvious at this point that I'm not the right guy for her, and she's not the right girl for me. We both cling to each other.
This week at my university I met a person [20F] whom I instantly grew fond of, and it made me realise how wrong my relationship feels at the moment. Even though I have not been unfaithful, I feel really guilty. I actually doubt that she feels the same way about me, but the fact that she initiated a conversation, that we managed to talk for a long time (within a group of people, never alone) and that we have tons of common interests makes me totally blind. I spend every second of the day thinking of her, hoping that she likes me too. And it feels really wrong.
I'm really afraid of quitting 2.5 years of relationship for someone I just met, who is possibly not even interested. I feel like I should appreciate what I have now, get over myself, sort out the issues with my girlfriend and work on improving our relationship. I don't want to break her heart, it would devastate her, especially in the state she's in now.
TL;DR: My current relationship is not going well, and I just met another girl I really like. I have no idea what to do. I feel like I have to act fast.
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