I've (M/24) been in an LDR for 6 months now with a girl (22) who works abroad. I'm new here and am searching for a bit of help with my situation.
We both have genuinely deep feelings for one another and have discussed this openly. I feel like I've found the one and she's confessed to having never felt the way she does about another person. We've discussed the future, meeting up and how we'll handle the time she is abroad (2 more years). We were due to meet in Feb.
But then things changed. Out of the blue, she confessed that she wanted to call things off because she couldn't handle being in a LDR and it's too difficult to see/speak-to me knowing we can't live together.
I was surprised, because she's previously said an LDR wouldn't be a problem for her. And the way she's spoken about us makes me think this can't be what she wants. I feel like I'm missing something.
I'd already said I would visit and stay with her - I work for a remote company. But that doesn't seem to be enough.
As it stands, we haven't spoke for a couple of weeks. I have accepted her choice and told her to text or call if she changes her mind. I want to give her space.
However, I'm really struggling. Mainly because I feel like things have been left unresolved and I can't imagine this is what she wants.
I know she lets emotions get the better of her, but what do you think? Has she done this because it is just too hard for her or may there be another reason?
And what should I do? This isn't a crush or a first love thing - I genuinely can't imagine not having this girl in my life. Right now, I'm hoping time will help things.
Because otherwise, I will regret it for a long, long time.
We both have genuinely deep feelings for one another and have discussed this openly. I feel like I've found the one and she's confessed to having never felt the way she does about another person. We've discussed the future, meeting up and how we'll handle the time she is abroad (2 more years). We were due to meet in Feb.
But then things changed. Out of the blue, she confessed that she wanted to call things off because she couldn't handle being in a LDR and it's too difficult to see/speak-to me knowing we can't live together.
I was surprised, because she's previously said an LDR wouldn't be a problem for her. And the way she's spoken about us makes me think this can't be what she wants. I feel like I'm missing something.
I'd already said I would visit and stay with her - I work for a remote company. But that doesn't seem to be enough.
As it stands, we haven't spoke for a couple of weeks. I have accepted her choice and told her to text or call if she changes her mind. I want to give her space.
However, I'm really struggling. Mainly because I feel like things have been left unresolved and I can't imagine this is what she wants.
I know she lets emotions get the better of her, but what do you think? Has she done this because it is just too hard for her or may there be another reason?
And what should I do? This isn't a crush or a first love thing - I genuinely can't imagine not having this girl in my life. Right now, I'm hoping time will help things.
Because otherwise, I will regret it for a long, long time.
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