Does anyone else have this problem?

[snow]

Sometimes you have to give a man space to breathe & decompress. Maybe he is going through some personal things and just need some time to figure thngs out. Give him some space hun and let him come to you. You constantly contacting him is just going to push him away.

Where is canadiangirl when we need her?
If someone needs space, they need to communicate that no matter if they are a woman or a man.

It's a sore topic because my best friend's boyfriend is doing something similar where he won't communicate that he needs space, and will expect it, so sometimes she thinks that is what he wants and does it, when in reality he didn't.

Communication is important. You gotta talk to him and tell him that that's not how you want to be treated.

[Karura]

Hmm this is difficult to give advice on when we don't know his usual personality. Communication is very important in a relationship but he might be the type of person that holds things to himself a lot. I had a partner who was like that and that was only an issue when we didn't know each other and further on I would know when he would need a little space then come back. Not everyone is the same. If you're not feeling well about it, you shouldn't just pester him with a lot of text and call attempts because that might scare him if he has anything to tell you or plans to to explain why he was unreachable. Be patient and open about your feeling but don't smother him.

[lovestoread]

Exactly!! What type of relationship is it that you communicate on demand to someome else... You sit and wait???

Relationships are built on trust and communications. That someone would intentionally ignore someone "just because" would be a deal breaker for me..

That being said, OP--you an't MAKE anyone do anything. You are allowing him to treat you this way.. And why cant he talk to you around his family?? Do they know about you?

yeah they know about me,I have no idea why he doesn't talk to me when he's with his family,he puts his family first.

[lovestoread]

Hmm this is difficult to give advice on when we don't know his usual personality. Communication is very important in a relationship but he might be the type of person that holds things to himself a lot. I had a partner who was like that and that was only an issue when we didn't know each other and further on I would know when he would need a little space then come back. Not everyone is the same. If you're not feeling well about it, you shouldn't just pester him with a lot of text and call attempts because that might scare him if he has anything to tell you or plans to to explain why he was unreachable. Be patient and open about your feeling but don't smother him.

okay thanks,well I know he's on vacation now so that's something that I know

[C.C.]

okay thanks,well I know he's on vacation now so that's something that I know

Why didn't he tell you he was going on vacation? I mean if it's grabbing some food or going out randomly, I get it. But if it's something that takes days at least and is planned beforehand, why doesn't he keep you updated?

[lovestoread]

Why didn't he tell you he was going on vacation? I mean if it's grabbing some food or going out randomly, I get it. But if it's something that takes days at least and is planned beforehand, why doesn't he keep you updated?

exactly,that's exactly what I want to know but like I said he puts his family first,and he's not a big talker,we talk every day but sometimes we don't if he has to close.

[sasad]

Ok.so he wont talk to you if he is with his family.. I assume parents or does he have kids too? Have you met them or spent time with his family?
He left on a PLANNED vacation and never said a word, but obviously you cant talk to him cuz he is with them or something.

How old is this dude again?
I would not put up with any of that crap/

[erwin1973]

After reading all this from OP, I get a bit worried...

I have experienced before: stop to communicate and your relationship will die. Definately. Especially an LDR where comminucation is all there is. Why would he not let you know? Why not respond? Of course, OP, that is yours to find out, we can't...

I hope I am wrong, but probably his love has died out.

Good luck.

[Freebird]

Ok.so he wont talk to you if he is with his family.. I assume parents or does he have kids too? Have you met them or spent time with his family?
He left on a PLANNED vacation and never said a word, but obviously you cant talk to him cuz he is with them or something.

How old is this dude again?
I would not put up with any of that crap/

Agree with this... I would not put up with this either.

Actually, I DIDN'T, put up with this. I've not had communication issues to this degree, but to make a long story short I broke up with my boyfriend over lack of communication. We eventually got back together and it has been almost 3 years since, but let's just say that was a wake up call for him and we have NEVER had a problem since and currently have a great relationship with plans to close the distance late this year or next year.

Communication is SO important in LDRs. If there is no communication, what do you have?

Good luck OP. You deserve to be treated right.

[lovestoread]

Ok.so he wont talk to you if he is with his family.. I assume parents or does he have kids too? Have you met them or spent time with his family?
He left on a PLANNED vacation and never said a word, but obviously you cant talk to him cuz he is with them or something.

How old is this dude again?
I would not put up with any of that crap/

I haven't met any of his family before,he's the same age as me 34,he doesn't have any kids.

[lovestoread]

After reading all this from OP, I get a bit worried...

I have experienced before: stop to communicate and your relationship will die. Definately. Especially an LDR where comminucation is all there is. Why would he not let you know? Why not respond? Of course, OP, that is yours to find out, we can't...

I hope I am wrong, but probably his love has died out.

Good luck.

what's op? No he still cares about me and loves me

[Moon]

what's op? No he still cares about me and loves me

OP=Original poster

[sasad]

I haven't met any of his family before,he's the same age as me 34,he doesn't have any kids.

So you haven't met any of his family. You have been together since 2014 Going on 3 years. Why the hell not ? What do they know about you?

[Honour]

Communication is extremely important if you want the relationship to even stay alive. Doesn't matter if you've been together for 2 months or 2 years, if you're not talking, there's something majorly wrong. I have to admit it's been almost 2 years and I haven't ever really spoken to my SO's parents, but they know OF me and know who I am. But that doesn't make what your SO is doing right. You should run for the hills, sorry...

[80anthea]

I'm sorry but I too wouldn't put up with this and suspect there is something else going on. I'd be furious if my SO had planned a vacation and gone without even mentioning it to me. Why can't he talk to you if he's with family? Why haven't you met any of them? You're in the same state and less than 200-miles apart there really aren't any excuses as to why after 2-years you haven't met, especially if he's so close to them.