Hi! I'm new to this forum so I'll give you a bit of background information first.
Me and my boyfriend met online in February 2015, and by March/April I was already deeply in love with him.
Back then, the distance wasn't really a problem. We talked all day every day, and were both very much in love.
In April 2016, we finally met. He'd bought us tickets to see our favourite band, Muse, so our first time meeting (first "date") was seeing this band together. We were both soo nervous.
We met in Manchester, England. Pretty much a half-way point where we see each other. That day was the best day of my life. It was PERFECT and I didn't want to go home and leave him. In fact it was so perfect that we meet in Manchester every week now. It takes him two hours to get there, and takes me two hours to get there, too. But it works.
I feel like the distance is becoming increasingly difficult though.
In July 2016 he spent two weeks at my house and it was amazing, and I occasionally go to his house too, for a few days at a time. We make it work best we can.
This year, he'll be going to university, and the uni is far away.
He's applied for a 5 year long course, and it feels like I haven't been thought about.
He cares a lot for his education (understandably!) but him moving even further away for another 5/6 years would kill me.
I've told him that after he's done a first year at uni, we could both get a flat together near the uni so we're living together.
He was always so distant about the idea and dismissed it whenever it was talked about.
He's an introverted guy, and doesn't have too much of a social life.
He said he was unsure on me moving in with him because he wouldn't want to be isolated from his uni friends and have no social life.
Mentally, I can't cope with a LDR for another 5/6 years. I want to start somewhat settling down and living with him. We could make it work, but I really feel like I don't come into his plans at all.
Last night we talked about it properly. I said there has to be a compromise.
After we'd talked he said he felt enlightened, and he said he loves the idea of us living together near his uni, and we'd have to look into it nearer the time.
I can't bear the thought of living so far away from him for so long, especially when living with him would be so doable.
I just can't stop over-thinking.
What if things don't work out, and he doesn't want me to move with him? I don't want to be left in the dark while he's out having a good time and I'm stuck wondering what to do.
Thank you for reading!
Me and my boyfriend met online in February 2015, and by March/April I was already deeply in love with him.
Back then, the distance wasn't really a problem. We talked all day every day, and were both very much in love.
In April 2016, we finally met. He'd bought us tickets to see our favourite band, Muse, so our first time meeting (first "date") was seeing this band together. We were both soo nervous.
We met in Manchester, England. Pretty much a half-way point where we see each other. That day was the best day of my life. It was PERFECT and I didn't want to go home and leave him. In fact it was so perfect that we meet in Manchester every week now. It takes him two hours to get there, and takes me two hours to get there, too. But it works.
I feel like the distance is becoming increasingly difficult though.
In July 2016 he spent two weeks at my house and it was amazing, and I occasionally go to his house too, for a few days at a time. We make it work best we can.
This year, he'll be going to university, and the uni is far away.
He's applied for a 5 year long course, and it feels like I haven't been thought about.
He cares a lot for his education (understandably!) but him moving even further away for another 5/6 years would kill me.
I've told him that after he's done a first year at uni, we could both get a flat together near the uni so we're living together.
He was always so distant about the idea and dismissed it whenever it was talked about.
He's an introverted guy, and doesn't have too much of a social life.
He said he was unsure on me moving in with him because he wouldn't want to be isolated from his uni friends and have no social life.
Mentally, I can't cope with a LDR for another 5/6 years. I want to start somewhat settling down and living with him. We could make it work, but I really feel like I don't come into his plans at all.
Last night we talked about it properly. I said there has to be a compromise.
After we'd talked he said he felt enlightened, and he said he loves the idea of us living together near his uni, and we'd have to look into it nearer the time.
I can't bear the thought of living so far away from him for so long, especially when living with him would be so doable.
I just can't stop over-thinking.
What if things don't work out, and he doesn't want me to move with him? I don't want to be left in the dark while he's out having a good time and I'm stuck wondering what to do.
Thank you for reading!
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