A month since NC, struggling?

[NewToLongDistance2016]

I really miss my ex, going down to see him those 2 times were amazing and its so hard knowing his life is prob better off w/out me. In the end he really had nothing to offer me and even if we did end up together, my life would be a living hell and he would just be a burden. I truly care for him and I guess that's what hurts the most, that I am here w/a broken heart and he is having the time of his life, he did tell me he was hurting as well, but I don't believe he is. Its coming up to the week I was supposed to see him, the one which he turned down before the break up and the nc.

btw I did see the new guy for a 2nd date, my gut instinct was correct. Though enthusiastic at 1st, the guy took me on the 2nd date just to tell me it wasn't going to work. Nothing that I did, just lifestyle differences. I would have preferred he told me over the phone, he had his mind made up before the 2nd from what he told me. I def did not feel a spark w/him as I did w/the guys I ended up dating, but I guess another rejection really hurt. Sorry just on here venting. I am doing my best to find fun activities and spending time w/family and friends.

[lovestoread]

I really miss my ex, going down to see him those 2 times were amazing and its so hard knowing his life is prob better off w/out me. In the end he really had nothing to offer me and even if we did end up together, my life would be a living hell and he would just be a burden. I truly care for him and I guess that's what hurts the most, that I am here w/a broken heart and he is having the time of his life, he did tell me he was hurting as well, but I don't believe he is. Its coming up to the week I was supposed to see him, the one which he turned down before the break up and the nc.

btw I did see the new guy for a 2nd date, my gut instinct was correct. Though enthusiastic at 1st, the guy took me on the 2nd date just to tell me it wasn't going to work. Nothing that I did, just lifestyle differences. I would have preferred he told me over the phone, he had his mind made up before the 2nd from what he told me. I def did not feel a spark w/him as I did w/the guys I ended up dating, but I guess another rejection really hurt. Sorry just on here venting. I am doing my best to find fun activities and spending time w/family and friends.

I don't understand what your question is here can you please be more specific?

[Chris516]

I really miss my ex, going down to see him those 2 times were amazing and its so hard knowing his life is prob better off w/out me. In the end he really had nothing to offer me and even if we did end up together, my life would be a living hell and he would just be a burden. I truly care for him and I guess that's what hurts the most, that I am here w/a broken heart and he is having the time of his life, he did tell me he was hurting as well, but I don't believe he is. Its coming up to the week I was supposed to see him, the one which he turned down before the break up and the nc.

btw I did see the new guy for a 2nd date, my gut instinct was correct. Though enthusiastic at 1st, the guy took me on the 2nd date just to tell me it wasn't going to work. Nothing that I did, just lifestyle differences. I would have preferred he told me over the phone, he had his mind made up before the 2nd from what he told me. I def did not feel a spark w/him as I did w/the guys I ended up dating, but I guess another rejection really hurt. Sorry just on here venting. I am doing my best to find fun activities and spending time w/family and friends.

While people want to be 100% on the same page. Some people manage to make a relationship/marriage work, despite the differences. But it isn't always possible. Rejection is never easy. Some people say, 'Don't put all your eggs in one basket'. I say, why not. What is wrong with being emotionally invested in one person. The rejection is harder when it happens. I guess this is where the phrase, 'It is better to have loved. Than never to have loved at all.', applies. But it doesn't make it any easier to cope with.

[Rezie]

It doenst matter if he is hurting or not or if you trust him or not. It's over, yes it hurts but you have to get over it since being with your ex made you miserable. Also after the break up you met a nice guy and went on a date. Turns out you were not compatible but that is what dating is about. No you put your self out there and meet new people.

[NewToLongDistance2016]

While people want to be 100% on the same page. Some people manage to make a relationship/marriage work, despite the differences. But it isn't always possible. Rejection is never easy. Some people say, 'Don't put all your eggs in one basket'. I say, why not. What is wrong with being emotionally invested in one person. The rejection is harder when it happens. I guess this is where the phrase, 'It is better to have loved. Than never to have loved at all.', applies. But it doesn't make it any easier to cope with.

I can understand not falling in love too quickly, maybe dating more then one person when you are just starting to get to know the person, but once you enter a serious relationship, you are putting eggs in one basket. The rejection has made it super difficult, its nice to be in love, granted I would rather loved someone who loved me back. My 1st relationship break up was hard, but at least it was something real, unlike this one which I feel like it was just a time filler. Sorry again, as I am just venting and trying to cope.

[Chris516]

I can understand not falling in love too quickly, maybe dating more then one person when you are just starting to get to know the person, but once you enter a serious relationship, you are putting eggs in one basket. The rejection has made it super difficult, its nice to be in love, granted I would rather loved someone who loved me back. My 1st relationship break up was hard, but at least it was something real, unlike this one which I feel like it was just a time filler. Sorry again, as I am just venting and trying to cope.

Venting as a form of coping, is good. Instead of keeping it bottled up inside.

I definitely know what it is like. For a relationship having felt like a time filler. I had a relationship like that in my teens.

[hmrambling]

unlike this one which I feel like it was just a time filler.

If this is your time filler, I'd hate to see what your other hobbies are.

[NewToLongDistance2016]

If this is your time filler, I'd hate to see what your other hobbies are.

I meant his time filler, not mine, I never use a relationship just to fill my time.