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    #1

    Not sure what to do.

    Hey, I just found this forum and was wondering if anyone could help me who is a t-mobile user.

    I've been trying to talk to my guy about this possibly becoming a long distance but he won't talk to me about it. I'm tired of putting my life on hold always staying in town for people who only see me when they want to because they know I'll always be here so I was trying to tell him that if a job opportunity comes then I'm going to move and I'll be 8 hours away now instead of 10 minutes away.

    Anyway, when I texted this to him, I wasn't sure if he received my messages so I called his t-mobile phone to leave a voice mail.
    It rang once and then went to voice mail so I left a voice mail...as if he purposely hung up on me.

    If he had blocked me then would it go straight to voice mail for a t-mobile user? I just wanted to be sure my messages were getting through to him.

    I feel like people in town I meet just take things for granted when people are near by.

    It's like I could be a lot farther away than ten minutes but they want to cause unnecessary issues when distance isn't the problem.

    I'm done with it.

    Thanks in any advance for any replies about a t-mobile user.
    Tags: life changes
    #2
    My family uses T-mobile, but I've never had to block anyone. I've had issues with my service where my phone won't properly ring when I get a call, so that's certainly a possibility. However, a quick google search yields the following:

    They will hear something like
    Welcome to Verizon, AT&T, T Mobile etc. Wireless, the number you were trying to reach has calling restrictions which has prevented the completion of your call.
    It won't go to voicemail because they are blocked from contacting you.
    For texts just an error message saying it can't be completed or sent.
    https://forums.windowscentral.com/no...es-number.html

    All this aside, though... why bother? If someone isn't being receptive to you or properly communicating with you, they're definitely not going to make it through a long-distance relationship with you.
    Canadian permanent residence APPROVED!
    Closed the Distance: 09/26/2019
    Engaged: 09/26/2020

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      #3
      I tried googling stuff about t-mobile, too and even asked the t-mobile support site. They are unsure as well if the person is just hanging up my calls or if he blocked me. It rang once like a regular ring then went to voice mail. The ring was long like he just saw my number and then hung up.

      It wasn't quick and it didn't keep ringing which makes me think he just hung up on me. If it went through, I just said since he's not talking to me that's fine, I'm going to move to wherever I want and take whatever opportunity.

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        #4
        There could be any number of reasons why this happened, including shoddy network. Try not to obsess over what "one long ring" means. If you're calling this guy to let him know you'll just be doing your thing, then just do your thing.
        So, here you are
        too foreign for home
        too foreign for here.
        Never enough for both.
        Ijeoma Umebinyuo, Diaspora Blues

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          #5
          Also, before, when this all first started, I was telling him how I wish we could be friends anyway since I'm a bit older than him. Although we are both over 21, it wasn't going to work out due to an age gap 9 year difference but no one can really tell the gap unless I mention it. And he always tells me how he doesn't feel like I'm in my early 30s at all. He's not wanting to be serious about life right now either way. And maybe showing him I could be gone any time, I'm hoping will tell him to not take his time about things since things can change.

          One time when I thought he blocked me and didn't respond, he ended up showing at a place where he knew I'd specifically be - a mutual friend's house so I wonder if he does get my texts he's just not replying. This was after a two week no contact that he showed up out of the blue.

          I didn't say I was in love with him or anything like that. I said it's hard being friends knowing we want to hook up but can't and it's probably best we don't since it might make things worse.

          When I was his age, my generation was freshly married right out of college. Seems like people in their early 20s these days just want to play around.

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            #6
            He was honest with you that he's not looking for anything serious right now. Don't try to play games by saying you could be gone any time. It takes two to be in a relationship and he clearly isn't interested.
            So, here you are
            too foreign for home
            too foreign for here.
            Never enough for both.
            Ijeoma Umebinyuo, Diaspora Blues

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              #7
              Originally posted by Ejoriah View Post
              He was honest with you that he's not looking for anything serious right now. Don't try to play games by saying you could be gone any time. It takes two to be in a relationship and he clearly isn't interested.
              Then he can't keep coming back after some time acting like he wants something more when he doesn't follow through with it.

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                #8
                If he blocked you, it wouldn't go to voicemail. You wouldn't be able to get through. My SO's ex-wife would block his number all the time. When you're blocked, it rings and disconnects/drops the call.

                and... he keeps coming back because you let him. You teach him how to treat you. If you keep "hooking up" and saying you're ok with it, but hoping he will eventually want more... that's not going to get anywhere. He's 21, yes, he only wants to play the field and from what you have written I can see how he feels you act younger than 31.
                Sparkling72

                "Strength in Us!"


                "exclusive" since May 13, 2016
                ** Shortened the distance!! December 2016 **
                closing the distance in ~ Oct. 2018

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                  #9
                  Originally posted by girl View Post
                  Then he can't keep coming back after some time acting like he wants something more when he doesn't follow through with it.
                  Indeed. Next time he comes back tell him no thanks.
                  So, here you are
                  too foreign for home
                  too foreign for here.
                  Never enough for both.
                  Ijeoma Umebinyuo, Diaspora Blues

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                    #10
                    Well he ended up calling me and texting me back so I guess that means he didn't block me. I must have said something to get him to talk but yeah I'm not going back and forth with him anymore.

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