I feel overall I handle the distance pretty well because I am so used to it, but for some reason today its just really getting to me. Does this happen to everyone else? I can't even distract myself from it. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.
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California- Alabama
Relationship began: April 4, 2017
First visit: Alabama: April 4-8, 2017
Second visit: Alabama: August 22-30, 2017
Third visit: Alabama: December 9-19, 2017
Fourth visit: California: May 25- June 4, 2018
Fifth visit: Alabama: September 15- 26, 2018
Sixth visit: Alabama: December 18, 2018-January 3, 2019
Seventh visit: Alabama: April 2-10, 2019
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It happens to the best of us honestly. I feel I handle the distance really well most the time but sometimes I have odd days where it really just gets on top of me. But its okay to have sad days, sad days are bound to happen sometimes so yup it's totally normal, try not worrymy girls <3
Josie (SO)
Met online ~ 17th August 2017 ~
Met in person ~ 30th August 2017 ~
Became official ~ 15th September 2017 ~
Closed the distance and moved in together! ~ 18th June 2018 ~
Ash
Met online ~ 21st November 2018 ~
Met in person ~ 26th November 2018 ~
Became official ~ 4th December 2018 ~
All moved in together! ~ 30th May 2019 ~
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I hear you on this. Last couple of days I traveled for work, and I found myself melancholy. She even sensed it in my voice, and asked.
We have a date when I will meet her and drive with her back here for the summer. It's just that this stretch from Spring Break to Summer break is going to be one on of our longest yet. I'm 35 days away from seeing her again. Then I have her here and on a trip to Wyoming with me for 72 days.
I guess I'm insecure about her happiness being away from her oldest daughter for a couple months
I'm already dreading her going back in the Fall. But part of me even fears that she would decide to stay, and that it could be premature for her kids.
I'm worried she won't get her ducks in a row in time to come down when she promised.
I'm worried that her financial situation won't be improved by coming to visit.
I'm worried she feels rushed to deal with what she has to deal with in order to come down.
I'm worried our dynamic will change when it's not the honeymoon feeling of a limited time visit
I'm worried she won't be happy here with her job and being away from her friends and family.
I'm worried my financial situation won't allow us to enjoy our free time together.
I'm worried she will think I work too much.
So when you are on the road for 5 hours, It's a lot of time to think about stuff ....
Yeah I get it. Hang tough.
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Originally posted by onlyemily View PostI feel overall I handle the distance pretty well because I am so used to it, but for some reason today its just really getting to me. Does this happen to everyone else? I can't even distract myself from it. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.
First Visit: September 2016
Second Visit: January 2017 (Her birthday)
Third Visit: June 2018 (medical conference near her home)
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Originally posted by 2Rocky View PostI hear you on this. Last couple of days I traveled for work, and I found myself melancholy. She even sensed it in my voice, and asked.
We have a date when I will meet her and drive with her back here for the summer. It's just that this stretch from Spring Break to Summer break is going to be one on of our longest yet. I'm 35 days away from seeing her again. Then I have her here and on a trip to Wyoming with me for 72 days.
I guess I'm insecure about her happiness being away from her oldest daughter for a couple months
I'm already dreading her going back in the Fall. But part of me even fears that she would decide to stay, and that it could be premature for her kids.
I'm worried she won't get her ducks in a row in time to come down when she promised.
I'm worried that her financial situation won't be improved by coming to visit.
I'm worried she feels rushed to deal with what she has to deal with in order to come down.
I'm worried our dynamic will change when it's not the honeymoon feeling of a limited time visit
I'm worried she won't be happy here with her job and being away from her friends and family.
I'm worried my financial situation won't allow us to enjoy our free time together.
I'm worried she will think I work too much.
So when you are on the road for 5 hours, It's a lot of time to think about stuff ....
Yeah I get it. Hang tough.California- Alabama
Relationship began: April 4, 2017
First visit: Alabama: April 4-8, 2017
Second visit: Alabama: August 22-30, 2017
Third visit: Alabama: December 9-19, 2017
Fourth visit: California: May 25- June 4, 2018
Fifth visit: Alabama: September 15- 26, 2018
Sixth visit: Alabama: December 18, 2018-January 3, 2019
Seventh visit: Alabama: April 2-10, 2019
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Originally posted by Saralovesjason View PostI totally understand...I will go along all positive and strong and happy, then the same ol triggers come along and I'm struggling. I have found keeping busy helps, but sometimes I feel that means I'm present in my life.California- Alabama
Relationship began: April 4, 2017
First visit: Alabama: April 4-8, 2017
Second visit: Alabama: August 22-30, 2017
Third visit: Alabama: December 9-19, 2017
Fourth visit: California: May 25- June 4, 2018
Fifth visit: Alabama: September 15- 26, 2018
Sixth visit: Alabama: December 18, 2018-January 3, 2019
Seventh visit: Alabama: April 2-10, 2019
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Omg that is such a trigger for me. So relieved I'm not the only one. I will see social media, or talk to a friend, and it's the weekend, and they have yet another weekend with their SO. I absolutely acknowledge to myself and my bf that I'm jealous. It just isn't fair sometimes, and that's that. My bf says, I'm sorry, I want that too, one day we will have it, I promise. Then I think about what we have, and how I'd rather be missing him than in an ordinary relationship right here. The intimacy we have is extraordinary. Then I think about how he's never broke a promise to me. Then, I feel more lucky than jealous.
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Originally posted by Saralovesjason View PostOmg that is such a trigger for me. So relieved I'm not the only one. I will see social media, or talk to a friend, and it's the weekend, and they have yet another weekend with their SO. I absolutely acknowledge to myself and my bf that I'm jealous. It just isn't fair sometimes, and that's that. My bf says, I'm sorry, I want that too, one day we will have it, I promise. Then I think about what we have, and how I'd rather be missing him than in an ordinary relationship right here. The intimacy we have is extraordinary. Then I think about how he's never broke a promise to me. Then, I feel more lucky than jealous.California- Alabama
Relationship began: April 4, 2017
First visit: Alabama: April 4-8, 2017
Second visit: Alabama: August 22-30, 2017
Third visit: Alabama: December 9-19, 2017
Fourth visit: California: May 25- June 4, 2018
Fifth visit: Alabama: September 15- 26, 2018
Sixth visit: Alabama: December 18, 2018-January 3, 2019
Seventh visit: Alabama: April 2-10, 2019
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Must have been something in the air this week. I've been the same
Every time my friend tells me she's going to watch a movie / have a drink / meal with her SO my heart sinks a little. Because I wish it was that easy
I don't have them often but I had a wobble this week too
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I can definitely relate. Off days/good days aside, seeing CD couples on social media and around me when I'm out in town etc... sure, I get jealous. Great that they're happy, I just wish that happiness would be me and my SO.
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Originally posted by Loulou View PostMust have been something in the air this week. I've been the same
Every time my friend tells me she's going to watch a movie / have a drink / meal with her SO my heart sinks a little. Because I wish it was that easy
I don't have them often but I had a wobble this week too
Originally posted by Honour View PostI can definitely relate. Off days/good days aside, seeing CD couples on social media and around me when I'm out in town etc... sure, I get jealous. Great that they're happy, I just wish that happiness would be me and my SO.California- Alabama
Relationship began: April 4, 2017
First visit: Alabama: April 4-8, 2017
Second visit: Alabama: August 22-30, 2017
Third visit: Alabama: December 9-19, 2017
Fourth visit: California: May 25- June 4, 2018
Fifth visit: Alabama: September 15- 26, 2018
Sixth visit: Alabama: December 18, 2018-January 3, 2019
Seventh visit: Alabama: April 2-10, 2019
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On a side note, I think friends make a difference. I do have support but at the same time a lot of my friends "don't understand" or "could never" be in a LDR. It makes all the difference having a bad day when someone just listens vs saying well you kinda signed up for it. That gets under my skinCalifornia- Alabama
Relationship began: April 4, 2017
First visit: Alabama: April 4-8, 2017
Second visit: Alabama: August 22-30, 2017
Third visit: Alabama: December 9-19, 2017
Fourth visit: California: May 25- June 4, 2018
Fifth visit: Alabama: September 15- 26, 2018
Sixth visit: Alabama: December 18, 2018-January 3, 2019
Seventh visit: Alabama: April 2-10, 2019
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