Avoid,,,,refuse ;(

[Jovan]

Last nite, me and her had a talk on the phone. Out of blue, I ask her a question about our relations. We do know well that her family is our big problem. And so i asked her, 'what if we can't be together, can you accept it? Have you ever think about it? What if you leave me again?'
She's quite a while. Then she try to avoid to answer me by talking other story. She refuse to answer me. The only thing she said to me, Don't think bad.

Is anyone here, experience this with your SO?
I just need a clear and a honest answer from her.

[Mio]

I never went thru this, but I think you should tell her that there is something really important you should talk about and that is very important for the sake of your relationship. That you need to know to have peace in the relationship. Be firm, I hope she talks.

[Silviar]

So, while I don't have a inter family problem with my SO, I did with my ex. I just want to say that while I know you want an answer, I don't think receiving one will really do you any good. It's such a loaded question, and her answer could change from the time now versus if she's forced to make such a decision. Forcing it early out of her may only upset you both and still might not be what happens.

But, if it's important to you, I'd explain it's something you're worried about and really would like an answer after she's given it some thought, and it may also help you both to discuss how to work around such a boulder in a way that won't results in ending either your relationship or her with her parent's.