Hi, I just created this account because I need advice from people who know what it is being in a long distance relationship.
I have a huge problem. I have been with my boyfriend for 1,5 years. We usually see each other every 3 months. I was supposed to fly to see him on Monday the 12th of June. I found out that he has been talking to his ex behind my back and that he misses his ex and he wants to see his ex. But he also says that he doesn't want to lose me. I already told him that I'm not coming since he was/is planning to see his ex and that we need to break up if he will see her because I know what will happen if they meet. His ex doesn't accept our relationship and she is ready to do everything to make me leave him (she even contacted me telling that they are going to meet and that she will do it just for fun and she wouldn't even be committed if they started over). So the ex is also a problem because she has told lies before to destroy our relationship and she might be telling lies again. I don't know who to trust anymore.
I kind of already told him that we are done and I blocked him everywhere but we never really solved the problem so I had to talk to him again and he made me think if I should still go to see him. Part of me knows this will never work, part of me wants to see him. I don't think I can ever heal if I don't see him for the last time and talk about this face to face. He told me now that he will not see his ex because it would make me disappear from his life. I know that he might be telling lies and manipulating me but I can't see myself not going to see him. I would stay there for 3 weeks and that is a long time if I find out that he is again talking to his ex. I'm scared that I will be even more broken but I never got to say good bye face to face.
Should I go to see him for the last time or not? I already told my family and friends and they don't want me to go but I don't know if they understand me and my feelings because they have never done long distance with someone from another country. (We are both in Europe so the distance is not very huge.) I still love him and I can't imagine my life without him. What would you do in this situation?
I have a huge problem. I have been with my boyfriend for 1,5 years. We usually see each other every 3 months. I was supposed to fly to see him on Monday the 12th of June. I found out that he has been talking to his ex behind my back and that he misses his ex and he wants to see his ex. But he also says that he doesn't want to lose me. I already told him that I'm not coming since he was/is planning to see his ex and that we need to break up if he will see her because I know what will happen if they meet. His ex doesn't accept our relationship and she is ready to do everything to make me leave him (she even contacted me telling that they are going to meet and that she will do it just for fun and she wouldn't even be committed if they started over). So the ex is also a problem because she has told lies before to destroy our relationship and she might be telling lies again. I don't know who to trust anymore.
I kind of already told him that we are done and I blocked him everywhere but we never really solved the problem so I had to talk to him again and he made me think if I should still go to see him. Part of me knows this will never work, part of me wants to see him. I don't think I can ever heal if I don't see him for the last time and talk about this face to face. He told me now that he will not see his ex because it would make me disappear from his life. I know that he might be telling lies and manipulating me but I can't see myself not going to see him. I would stay there for 3 weeks and that is a long time if I find out that he is again talking to his ex. I'm scared that I will be even more broken but I never got to say good bye face to face.
Should I go to see him for the last time or not? I already told my family and friends and they don't want me to go but I don't know if they understand me and my feelings because they have never done long distance with someone from another country. (We are both in Europe so the distance is not very huge.) I still love him and I can't imagine my life without him. What would you do in this situation?
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