Hey y'all
I'm not really sure where to start so I'm going to just kinda dive in head first.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. I know that's not a very long time, but I'm head over heels for him and vice versa.
Its one of those things where you just know and it feels right.
He lives in my home town. I move to OKC in Oct for school and work.
We were originally planning on him moving here in March of next year after he hit two years at his current job. Well his job just offered to pay for training and certification that would allow him to job ridiculously far ahead in his field and would more than double his salary. Well, this certification is going to take over a year to get. Which means this could easily push us moving in together back over 6 months.
We only live 100 miles apart. About an hour and 45 minutes drive. We currently see each other every weekend, we switch off weekends driving to each others respective home. I am a student. I am looking for a new job that will work around my class schedule this fall. There is a good chance that I'll end up having to work weekends, so between that and schooll going to significantly cut down on the amount of time we get to see each other.
He has had a LDR fail before because of the distance and he's worried.
We just found out its going to be even longer than we thought before he can move here, and he's upset.
He keeps saying he doesn't wanna lose me and hopes I can wait for him..
I considered moving home and taking a year off of school, not only because of the problem we're facing but also because I'm a bit lost when it comes to my professional and scholarly life at them moment.
He keep saying he's worried I'm going to leave, like if the relationship fails its going to be all my fault....yet I'm not the one that's worried. I believe that we can make it through this..
I am 1000% invested in this relationship.
The fact that he seems to think that I'm the one that won't be able to handle it is very, very hurtful.
I don't know what to do.
I know its going to be hard. I am WELL aware of that. I believe that we'll be fine. But how am I going to stay positive when he seems to be blaming me?
How do I reassure him?
Am I crazy for being hurt by what he's said?
Please help. I don't know what to think..
I'm not really sure where to start so I'm going to just kinda dive in head first.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. I know that's not a very long time, but I'm head over heels for him and vice versa.
Its one of those things where you just know and it feels right.
He lives in my home town. I move to OKC in Oct for school and work.
We were originally planning on him moving here in March of next year after he hit two years at his current job. Well his job just offered to pay for training and certification that would allow him to job ridiculously far ahead in his field and would more than double his salary. Well, this certification is going to take over a year to get. Which means this could easily push us moving in together back over 6 months.
We only live 100 miles apart. About an hour and 45 minutes drive. We currently see each other every weekend, we switch off weekends driving to each others respective home. I am a student. I am looking for a new job that will work around my class schedule this fall. There is a good chance that I'll end up having to work weekends, so between that and schooll going to significantly cut down on the amount of time we get to see each other.
He has had a LDR fail before because of the distance and he's worried.
We just found out its going to be even longer than we thought before he can move here, and he's upset.
He keeps saying he doesn't wanna lose me and hopes I can wait for him..
I considered moving home and taking a year off of school, not only because of the problem we're facing but also because I'm a bit lost when it comes to my professional and scholarly life at them moment.
He keep saying he's worried I'm going to leave, like if the relationship fails its going to be all my fault....yet I'm not the one that's worried. I believe that we can make it through this..
I am 1000% invested in this relationship.
The fact that he seems to think that I'm the one that won't be able to handle it is very, very hurtful.
I don't know what to do.
I know its going to be hard. I am WELL aware of that. I believe that we'll be fine. But how am I going to stay positive when he seems to be blaming me?
How do I reassure him?
Am I crazy for being hurt by what he's said?
Please help. I don't know what to think..
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