Hello all! I am a first-timer in a long distance relationship who is madly in-love with my partner of about 9 months. He and I met in college...but now I have graduated and he still has two years left until he enters the "real world" with me. Once the school year starts again we will only be an hour apart, but for now we are on separate sides of the state
He and I have had our ups and downs, as any couple does, but have remained loyal and strong.
But, right now, the worry that continues to make me anxious is our rate of communication. I know that I like texting, calling, video chatting, etc. a lot more than he does. We've talked about how much he wants to communicate when we are not together, and he has not expressed any strong feelings about our communication patterns. Right now we text at least 3 times a day, normally at night, but I've found that I still get very worked up when he does not answer my messages right away. I've also noticed that I tend to be the one doing most of the initiating and I worry that I am becoming too clingy. My partner is very affectionate and kind and wants me to be happy, so he is very good about responding to my messages ASAP and telling me openly when he will be busy and will not be responding. I try to give him space because his previous long distance relationship ended horribly (his ex was very controlling and never gave him space). I try to keep this in-mind by giving him distance, but I worry because I get very depressed and sad if I don't talk with him as much as possible.
Basically, I'm in an internal battle...so I was wondering how often other LDR couples text, call, etc. I was also hoping for some pointers with dealing with distance...how do you guys deal with lack of communication with your significant other? Any advice would be appreciated! Thank you so much!
He and I have had our ups and downs, as any couple does, but have remained loyal and strong.
But, right now, the worry that continues to make me anxious is our rate of communication. I know that I like texting, calling, video chatting, etc. a lot more than he does. We've talked about how much he wants to communicate when we are not together, and he has not expressed any strong feelings about our communication patterns. Right now we text at least 3 times a day, normally at night, but I've found that I still get very worked up when he does not answer my messages right away. I've also noticed that I tend to be the one doing most of the initiating and I worry that I am becoming too clingy. My partner is very affectionate and kind and wants me to be happy, so he is very good about responding to my messages ASAP and telling me openly when he will be busy and will not be responding. I try to give him space because his previous long distance relationship ended horribly (his ex was very controlling and never gave him space). I try to keep this in-mind by giving him distance, but I worry because I get very depressed and sad if I don't talk with him as much as possible.
Basically, I'm in an internal battle...so I was wondering how often other LDR couples text, call, etc. I was also hoping for some pointers with dealing with distance...how do you guys deal with lack of communication with your significant other? Any advice would be appreciated! Thank you so much!
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