Here is bit of an update. I previously had a thread about the troubles in my relationship since none of our closing the distace plans ever came through. There was always a reason why he thought the timing wasn't right and the* he finally admitted that he didn't want to relocate like we had agreed. Well this caused me to have a lot of anxiety and I wanted to give him an ultimatum.* I was so miserable that I didn't enjoy anything but I couldn't bring myself to break up with him either. It has now been about a year since this anxiety started. It has been horrible but educational. I don't really enjoy my job and I'm growing apart with my old friends. Nothing dramatic but the normal in our 20's different life situation stuff.
I made* a decision to go back to school to get my masters and to figure out if our relationship is worth all the anxiety, money and tears.* I applied to his country and got into a few different schools. Chose the one best fitting for me and gave him the option to either move with* me closer to campus or him staying in his house and visiting over the weekends. Well we are house hunting tomorrow since he wants to live with me (and his commute to work will be 1h shorter when we move close to campus so it makes sense).
So here I am sitting in the airport with my one way ticket. 5,5 years later since we first met. This isn't the final plan. I took a year off from work so I have a place to go back. The employment in my country is very difficult. But I'm open to staying a few years and he says that he is more open about relocating. So we have a year to see if our relationship is worth all this and how we work together and then make new plans. Also I get a break from my work and I get a new degree that will improve my employment prospects.
For me this "only one year" is easier to handle and( also for my parents) and doesn't feel too final and scary.* Well I'm terrified going back to school and being broke. It will be an adjustment not to have income and studying something completely different. But I feel good about our relationship now that there is a some sort of plan. Also the anxiety has subsided.
I want to thank everyone on this forum. This is the most supportive forum I've been on and it's great to have a community that understands instead of thinking you are crazy for being with* person who lives more than 2 blocks away.
I made* a decision to go back to school to get my masters and to figure out if our relationship is worth all the anxiety, money and tears.* I applied to his country and got into a few different schools. Chose the one best fitting for me and gave him the option to either move with* me closer to campus or him staying in his house and visiting over the weekends. Well we are house hunting tomorrow since he wants to live with me (and his commute to work will be 1h shorter when we move close to campus so it makes sense).
So here I am sitting in the airport with my one way ticket. 5,5 years later since we first met. This isn't the final plan. I took a year off from work so I have a place to go back. The employment in my country is very difficult. But I'm open to staying a few years and he says that he is more open about relocating. So we have a year to see if our relationship is worth all this and how we work together and then make new plans. Also I get a break from my work and I get a new degree that will improve my employment prospects.
For me this "only one year" is easier to handle and( also for my parents) and doesn't feel too final and scary.* Well I'm terrified going back to school and being broke. It will be an adjustment not to have income and studying something completely different. But I feel good about our relationship now that there is a some sort of plan. Also the anxiety has subsided.
I want to thank everyone on this forum. This is the most supportive forum I've been on and it's great to have a community that understands instead of thinking you are crazy for being with* person who lives more than 2 blocks away.
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