Scared

[Rain]

My partner and I met on a dating site a couple of months back. We made it official this week that we are together. We haven't met yet but have mention it, about thousand miles apart. We have video chatting once and mostly messages each other (talk everyday).

I have told her I do like her and we have flirting back and forth. What scares me the most is how much I like her and I kinda am felling in love with her. I'm am afraid to tell her just yet because she does have anxiety. Also, I don't wait to scare her away. I am shy too and have had depression in the past. Don't really know what to do?

[erwin1973]

Hi and welcome.

What I don't understand is this...

We made it official this week

What scares me the most is how much I like her and I kinda am felling in love with her.

When you're official, how can you do that without telling each other you love each other? I'm just a bit confused.

[snow]

Dating and being in love is not synonymous. You can date someone you kinda just like and let it develop into love, so I see where OP is coming from.

You know your SO best. If you think you should wait to tell her, wait to tell her. One month is not really a long time so while I totally get how you feel, but give it a little more time and tell her when the time feels right!

[erwin1973]

Dating and being in love is not synonymous. You can date someone you kinda just like and let it develop into love

I'm sorry for misinterpreting. Tnx for clarifying.

[hmrambling]

My SO was slow to come around. Even after a couple of months of exclusivity she wasn't ready to say that she loved me, so I respected that. We've been together over two years and neither of us has said that we're in love with the other. Neither of us has really pushed for a proclamation of being in love, either.

I tend to like the notion of going as slow as the slowest person. Instead of living in fear, relax and let the relationship organically take its course.