Missing your special someone...

[bigmac62]

Sometimes, and we've all been there, whether it's five minutes or five months since you've seen your boy/girlfriend, and there's that big sinking feeling in your heart...that's right; you're missing them again.

Unfortunately, that's the feeling I've had for the last couple of weeks since my girlfriend left. I'll wake up in the morning, and reach over to give her a kiss, and...she's not there. It's not only frustrating, it's kind of heartbreaking.

So, what do you all do when you get that feeling?

[Moon]

Drink OK, I'm just teasing, but I know what you mean. When I left my guy in the beginning of July, I was in a funk for weeks. Yeah, sure, keeping busy helps, but it doesn't heal! I just had to ride it out and tell myself that everyday was a day closer to seeing him again, it usually gets better as time goes on, and I try to figure out a date for our next visit, so I have a goal.

[Karringtyn]

Funny you should ask that RIGHT NOW. It has been 51 days as of today...the longest ever apart...yet if you ask my love...he will say..."Nope...I went 47 years without you babe"....but I truly know the longing and missing feeling.

I have three body pillows I surround myself with when I am having trouble sleeping...and I just cozy up with them and try to imagine those big strong arms around me....god I love him.

I focus on what we truly have....tho it isn't the best situation right now because of distance...we have each other.

I keep myself busy. I stay away from sappy love songs....and keep things upbeat. I surround myself with supportive people...THIS PLACE for sure!!!

Take care and know...we all understand!

[Moon]

^^^Oh yeah, definitely stay away from the sappy love songs, forgot about that one

[Luisina]

The biggest problem for me at first was that him leaving had all the characteristics of a break-up.. (not all my ex'es left on planes, mind you ) but still.. the thought was there, unconsciously.. that him not being there must mean that he wasn't WITH me anymore. in any way.
It was not until a few days ago when I realized that problem: that I'd actually gone through a break-up in my head.. which wasn't necessary at ALL. Cause I KNOW that he loves me - and is thinking of me and misses me just as much as I miss him.

Which is exactly the same case with you! (and everybody else here for that matter ) Convincing myself that he just on another continent now, loving me, made everything a bit easier..

Now, it's only been a week and a half since he left, and going to bed/waking up are still very painful times for me (at least I can keep busy during the day) but it's getting better.. it's just a slow process..
Hope you'll feel better soon

[NikkiP]

I honestly get that sinking feeling almost every day for about 30 minutes. A lot of times it happens in the evening, while he is still at work so I don't really have him to turn to. Reading back through his most recent e-mails, or listening to one of his songs usually helps me to get through it and then when he gets out of work and we're having our nightly phone call I very briefly tell him how I was feeling.

We got webcams this weekend and actually ended up leaving them up all night for the first time last night! So I woke up a bit early (about 5:30) and just sort of watched him until I went back to sleep. Then when I got up for good I said good morning and he woke up and I turned the camera towards my dresser so he could watch me get ready/wander around my room/throw five different outfits to the side etc. I know that it sure put my day off to a great start.

Do you have your next visit scheduled?

[Silviar]

I spend extra time doing something sweet for my boyfriend, something I know that'll make him squee a bit. Hearing his joy and seeing his happiness helps me mitigate that. I also start looking at stuff and figuring out when we can meet next - it helps.

[Mio]

I used to try to skype with him, and then go to sleep. It can be so sad, but it will go better when you think about next time you will meet again.