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[Marco-97]

Hello to everyone! My name is Marco and I am from Italy. Now I am going to tell you all some things of my story, and I would like to receive some suggestions, because now I feel very very sad.

I met a chinese girl via app, also because I am studying chinese. We met online in October, after 1 month we started our LDR. I have never had experience in this field, actually also with girls.. while she had. We loved eachother very much, but time difference didn't help a lot. She went to sleep very late to talk with me. I did some not so good things at the beginning, lied in order to protect her. But with time everything was perfect, talked a lot, sweet things and promises for the future. The most important thing is that she will come to my University next August, and I have planned to visit her in March for a whole month. The problem is that we argued, for stupid little things. I don't want to blame her of course, but I hate arguing for useless stuffs.
Anyway, today, almost close to 2 months of relationship, seems it is finished. She blocked me.
Next week I will start the formalities for the renew of passport, and in 1 month I wanted to get the visa.

Now, my question is. If nothing good will happen in the next days or weeks, should I take the visa, go to her city, and hoping to find her?
I would like to try this, no matter if I spend money, or if I can't find her. She means too much for me. I will never give up.
Thank you for the attention!

Marco

[erwin1973]

If she blocked you, I think there is no need in going to see her. Unless you have so much money to spend you don't know what to do with it, I'd save it for a better occasion.

In my humble opinion, the lying hasn't helped and that might be the culprit here... Next time, don't lie. Never lie.

[Marco-97]

Thank you for your message.
I am not a guy who lies, it happened at the beginning and I wrongly did that. After time, everything seemed to be normal.
Actually I have been saving money to go to China since time, but without her, I don't know what to do.
She will come in my hometown to study, I think she will continue to like me. And I will too. The problem is waiting that time.

Thank you anyway, It has been a sad but good lesson

[erwin1973]

She blocked you... I think that means she doesn't want any contact any more. Should be pretty clear in my opinion. Sadly, when you start lying, all the truths you tell and told, mean nothing any more, since you show you lie. And you say you're not a lair - yet you did. How can you say that all was 'normal' when you said before that you did fight over silly little things? In my opinion you're just not meant for each other. Respect her choice, don't chase her. She doesn't want, and she made that clear by blocking you. Leave her, let it go.

[Marco-97]

Oh, I see.
Thanks

[MissButterfly]

Go to China if the country and language interest you, but definitely don't look for her - that's what stalkers do. Let her go if she blocked you, as hard as that may be.

[Marco-97]

Thank you, I think I will surely go in the future. Yes, it is very hard. I just have to understand this. I hope good things will happen

[Rezie]

she blocked you and don't want to be with you anymore. but if you have the time and money I do regiment having a holiday in china. don't look for her, that's creepy but have a good holiday

[Marco-97]

Thank you for your words, I do appreciate.

[erwin1973]

I know it's hard. You're young, you'll get plenty of chances. Learn from your mistakes and don't repeat them. I wish you good luck.

[Marco-97]

Sure! I will learn from my mistakes and be a better person. Thanks!

[Marco-97]

Sorry, just last question.
I think even if she comes to my city, she doesn't want to have contact with me. But what if she changes ideas?
Well, let's say I don't have to care about this now.

[erwin1973]

If she changes her mind, the only way you know is if she lets you know.

[Marco-97]

I really hope! Thank you very much!

[erwin1973]

Stay strong.