Hello, so I've been together with my SO for about 8 months.
In the beginning of our relationship my ex and one girl who he used to like used to bring a lot of bad things into our relationship, this ended up with us agreeing now to talk to these people anymore.
The thing is that we're playing an online game "Black Desert" and that girl is in our clan/guild and just recently started to use Discord again (App on pc where you can voice chat, etc like teamspeak), this means that the "Promise" my SO and I had about not speaking to this girl is not available anymore and I find myself worrying that what happened in the past about her talking to him about her suddenly passing out and waking up to having cut herself, her constantly talking about her problems to him which led to him telling me to talk to her in a certain way sometimes so I did not make her feel worse.
I must mention the reason I asked him not to speak to her, was because she had used the fact he liked her as in she used to have a boyfriend and whenever he came home, she left the online game where she was with my SO before we started dating to go be with him which led to my SO feeling really down all the down and depressed because of her.
I just find myself overthinking and worrying that what happened in the past might repeat itself now and I was wondering if anyone got any ideas as to how I can stop feeling this way, or just show that I trust him more, because as things are now I feel as if i'm showing the opposite of my trust for him.
In the beginning of our relationship my ex and one girl who he used to like used to bring a lot of bad things into our relationship, this ended up with us agreeing now to talk to these people anymore.
The thing is that we're playing an online game "Black Desert" and that girl is in our clan/guild and just recently started to use Discord again (App on pc where you can voice chat, etc like teamspeak), this means that the "Promise" my SO and I had about not speaking to this girl is not available anymore and I find myself worrying that what happened in the past about her talking to him about her suddenly passing out and waking up to having cut herself, her constantly talking about her problems to him which led to him telling me to talk to her in a certain way sometimes so I did not make her feel worse.
I must mention the reason I asked him not to speak to her, was because she had used the fact he liked her as in she used to have a boyfriend and whenever he came home, she left the online game where she was with my SO before we started dating to go be with him which led to my SO feeling really down all the down and depressed because of her.
I just find myself overthinking and worrying that what happened in the past might repeat itself now and I was wondering if anyone got any ideas as to how I can stop feeling this way, or just show that I trust him more, because as things are now I feel as if i'm showing the opposite of my trust for him.
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