Hello there,
First of all, happy new year to all ! (since it's the period)
I'm posting this because I really do need some support. I feel like only you guys can really understand what I'm going through.
Few months ago, I posted a thread explaining the whole story in details,but to make it short, I know this guy that I met online about a year ago and who's living in South Africa (I live in France). We really clicked and fell in love.
About 4 months ago, things were confused between us and he started to date a girl in real life but at the same time, was still saying he loved me and wanted me. It really hurt me, and many people told me to let him go, which I tried to do, but failed. Eventually, I managed to accept (mostly ignore) the fact that he was with someone else, we got even closer somehow, and I convinced myself that it wouln't be bad for both of us to date other people in real life, since we can't give each other physical affection. Some couples are doing that, so I told myself : why not us ? So I tried to date other guys, but I felt like betraying myself and felt really guilty because I was thinking about him all along. So I just gave up.
Things were doing well between us, until a couple days ago. It was his girlfriend's birthday and he posted pictures of them on social medias and wasn't able to talk because he was with her (he didn't clearly tell me but I guessed it). I think seeing them together and knowing him with her just made me realise how real it was and I sunddenly felt deeply hurt, and angry because how can he be with someone else while he's the only one for me ?
He knows that it hurts me and usually avoids showing me or talking to me about his relationship, but I guess he wanted to please her for her birthday.
When he came back I talked with him, and I think he does have feelings for her, I told him how hurt I was, and he really panicked, he said that he can't lose me, that I'm his priority, that if I asked him, he would leave her, and he asked me several times if I wanted him to do it. Deep down of course it's what I want, but I don't want to hurt anyone, and I don't want him to do something he actually doesn't want. Plus he already told me that in his group of friends, things are weird and that if he leaves her, many people would get hurt and would fight, I don't really know all the story, but one of his friends also talked to me about it, and told me how fragile his grilfriend was and that him leaving her would destroy her.
To sum up, he's stuck and so am I
I'm hurt and so is he
We don't see any solution
I really don't see my life without him, he doesn't see his without me
I can't meet him while he's still with her and, who knows, it could last for years considering the situation
It sounds ridiculous and pathetic since we didn't meet and still are really young but we really talked about a future together, and he still talks to me about it
It hurts
I know, I really know I should forget about him and move on, but what we have is so special and beautiful, I don't want to give up on it, and I don't know if I will ever be able to forget him.
I feel stuck and so hurt
Has anyone been there before ?
Can we really get over something that hasn't really started yet, something we believed in so much ?
Thanks for reading everything
First of all, happy new year to all ! (since it's the period)
I'm posting this because I really do need some support. I feel like only you guys can really understand what I'm going through.
Few months ago, I posted a thread explaining the whole story in details,but to make it short, I know this guy that I met online about a year ago and who's living in South Africa (I live in France). We really clicked and fell in love.
About 4 months ago, things were confused between us and he started to date a girl in real life but at the same time, was still saying he loved me and wanted me. It really hurt me, and many people told me to let him go, which I tried to do, but failed. Eventually, I managed to accept (mostly ignore) the fact that he was with someone else, we got even closer somehow, and I convinced myself that it wouln't be bad for both of us to date other people in real life, since we can't give each other physical affection. Some couples are doing that, so I told myself : why not us ? So I tried to date other guys, but I felt like betraying myself and felt really guilty because I was thinking about him all along. So I just gave up.
Things were doing well between us, until a couple days ago. It was his girlfriend's birthday and he posted pictures of them on social medias and wasn't able to talk because he was with her (he didn't clearly tell me but I guessed it). I think seeing them together and knowing him with her just made me realise how real it was and I sunddenly felt deeply hurt, and angry because how can he be with someone else while he's the only one for me ?
He knows that it hurts me and usually avoids showing me or talking to me about his relationship, but I guess he wanted to please her for her birthday.
When he came back I talked with him, and I think he does have feelings for her, I told him how hurt I was, and he really panicked, he said that he can't lose me, that I'm his priority, that if I asked him, he would leave her, and he asked me several times if I wanted him to do it. Deep down of course it's what I want, but I don't want to hurt anyone, and I don't want him to do something he actually doesn't want. Plus he already told me that in his group of friends, things are weird and that if he leaves her, many people would get hurt and would fight, I don't really know all the story, but one of his friends also talked to me about it, and told me how fragile his grilfriend was and that him leaving her would destroy her.
To sum up, he's stuck and so am I
I'm hurt and so is he
We don't see any solution
I really don't see my life without him, he doesn't see his without me
I can't meet him while he's still with her and, who knows, it could last for years considering the situation
It sounds ridiculous and pathetic since we didn't meet and still are really young but we really talked about a future together, and he still talks to me about it
It hurts
I know, I really know I should forget about him and move on, but what we have is so special and beautiful, I don't want to give up on it, and I don't know if I will ever be able to forget him.
I feel stuck and so hurt
Has anyone been there before ?
Can we really get over something that hasn't really started yet, something we believed in so much ?
Thanks for reading everything
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