Only just a future girlfriend?

[Cathy.Swiff]

Hi.
I hope everyone is doing well. Just something really confuses me about my long distance relationship. So I live in Australia, he lives in America. We actually know each other for nearly 2 years now, we haven't met yet and we were only friends before. Anyway, last couple of months, we are feeling more serious for each other and we started dating until now. And we are also planning to visit each other this year. Everything goes well for us. But I feel like he's not committed to our relationship yet, he only calls me I'm his future girlfriend, he told me he only has eyes on me but I still feel like something not right. I think he doesn't want to put our relationship status on social media either cause he said label is not something important. Is this normal or I worry too much? I just feel weird when he only calls me his future girlfriend.
I hope to hear advices from you guys. Thanks in advance!
Cathy

[autumn1790]

I didn't call my dude "boyfriend" until after we met in person...It just felt weird to be "dating" a guy I'd never met. Maybe he feels the same way...

[MikeLee]

Since you both haven't met yet and perhaps havent developed so far, there might be some uncertainty in your relationship right now. Distance relationship is not something anyone can understand, and as how things seems to be between you two right now he might be reluctant to post anything about it. After all you both haven't met yet and it seems like you haven't reached the stage where you both are fully committed. Commitment comes with time so you just gotta take it a step at a time. A big leap in this could be when you both meet in real, and it's probably also at that time when you both know if this will work or not. Since haven't met irl and haven't met makes a big difference. The difference shouldn't be that big if you two have video called each other and do it regularly.

I also don't like how "future girlfriend" sounds but it might just be a slip of word, or he thinks that you will truly be his girlfriend when you both have met. It is pretty logical and understandable if that's the case. Since only when you have met in real will you know how each other truly are. The best way though is to ask him if it really bugs you. He's the one who knows the answer after all. And it will be healthy for your realtionship if you ask each other or tell each other if there's something making you unhappy. It can stay in the shadow of your heart or mind and bother you. In the long run it's not good.

Rooting for you both. Hope your first meeting will be wonderful! . If it is, dont forget to take lot's of photos and videos for you both to remember your special day!