My boat is sinking

[Neha143]

Hello everyone,
I live in U.S and my husband lives in Australia, we have been together for 10 years and we are married for 2 years but he didint stayed with me, we had spend only 2 months together, i really miss him but the things are worst than than, i have to visit my brother and he has given 2000$ for all the expenses but now he wants me to do a job, i was his responsibility but now he wants me to work, its not that i dont want to work but i dont get a good job, now he is continuously accusing me for the money, all i do is just cry all night i dont know what to do

[Chris516]

Is it your brother, or husband, who is accusing you?

[Neha143]

My husband

[Littlewhiteflower]

Well, as simple as my advice might sound, you've been together for 10 years, married for 2. Talk to him. COMMUNICATE. That's the key. Although, I can understand your husband point of view. You are reliant on him for money somehow and considering the distance, it might be easier for you to become independent as well. What if the husband disappear out of nowhere? What if he asks divorce one day? My questions are just questions, but I'm a strong believer in the idea of being independent in case something happened. Plus, you can just have a part-time job if the idea of working full-time doesn't interest you. There's nothing wrong with that.

Anyway, talk to him. Try to fix things. People on a forum can hardly do it for yourself.

[Neha143]

Thank u for the reply, actually i started working the next month we got married because he had to go back and i dont have anything to do so i started working but now i got a little bit relaxation from my job as well as my inlaws, my husband just keep talking about money, sometimes i m so stressed out i want to die....

[autumn1790]

You have no savings to pay at least part of it back? That's honestly a little ridiculous of him to get worked up over $2k, but I guess if he needs it back for something that's his prerogative. It does seem disrespectful of him though. Why can't you get a good job? Is he under the impression you're not looking for one?

[Mariaa]

It's better to be independent and active anyway, think it like that: not for him but mainly for you, you have been now together for 12y and understand he is a big part of your life but your life shouldn't be all around him, it's better to have yours , your job, your hobbies, y our passions, your proper things and believe me you'll be very satisfied and happier , in the end your partner is just a plus in all that and complete you .

[Redheart14]

sometimes i m so stressed out i want to die....

have you thought about seeing/talking to someone about this? Stress is something that happens to all this of us but for it to be that bad that you say that is a worrying thing. Openly talk to your husband about how you're feeling and look into talking to someone about the stress you're under and how it's making you feel like that.

[Neha143]

Its all about money and citizenship

I am not sure if this is true but it seems like its all about money and citizenship, first he was coming back but now he got his permanent residency so he is saying that he will just come back for a month or 2 n then leave for 1 year, i am here waiting for him planning my life but he is planning some other things that i dont even know, we had a fight for 3 days about this matter and then i gave up and he was happy that i agreed, then came the money part, right now i am on my vacations to U.S at my mother's place, i had a job and i save some money and gave it to him, he gave me 500$ to spend on my vacation, but when we talk about that i went to shopping i got this he doesn't seems to like it, and when i say my mother is spending money on me he is really happy, i decided to come back earlier and start my job again, previously he said he will give pay for the ticket now he is asking me to pay 250$ for the ticket too, i feel like i am broke,