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    Cruise Ship- away for 5 months- help!

    Hi there,

    This is my first thread here. I know I�m going to need a support network for this stint, because he hasn�t even left yet and I�m terrified!

    We met just before Christmas, and instantly clicked. He had just gotten out of a toxic engagement, and I was in the process of doing the same, so we found each other at a great time, and had a lot of fun for the next 6 days on the job we were working together. We were both gutted when it was time to go home, and since he was leaving for the ship 2 days later, I assumed we wouldn�t see each other again.

    We chatted constantly, and when his flight was cancelled due to bad weather I immediately went to the airport hotel so we could spend even just a few more hours together, which was brilliant. Then he left, and it was crushing.

    The first stint was 5 weeks- we spoke/messaged a lot, and were able to speak on the phone most days. There was a long stint of sea days where the WiFi on board broke, and that was hard, and contact was a little sporadic after that, which stressed me out at first, but ultimately, I knew he was coming back.

    The last week has been brilliant- he came to stay with me for 3 days, and we had a great time. I met his mum, and he bought me little presents, the sort that he would really have to listen to me talk to know I would enjoy, which was really lovely and made it feel like more than a fling. He�s also coming back again this week, but then he leaves and he won�t be back until July.

    I need ways of coping while he is gone. He is kept busy constantly by work, or catching up on sleep, whereas my job only has me truly busy for around 3/4 hours a day. The rest of the time is spent indoors, alone. I don�t have the money to go out and see people as often as I�d like, and having gone from living with somebody to living alone, I�m already struggling with loneliness enough as it is. I�ve only been living alone for a month or so, and the first couple of weeks were ok, but the novelty has worn off, big time.

    I�m also worried that as it hasn�t been very long that we�ve known each other, that instead of absence making the heart grow fonder, he�ll go away, have a lovely time, and slowly forget about me. I don�t want to air too many of these concerns, because my easy-going nature is one of the things he likes about me, and cruise ships is a large reason in why he and his ex finally split (among many others). So I don�t want him put off by the fact that I�m sad about it. I really do appreciate that this is his career, and I�m genuinely pleased that he does a job he loves, is good at, and that he has goals.

    I hope I haven�t waffled on for too long- I�m new to this!- but any advice/help/support would be amazing. I really don�t want to put it on him, and the friends I have spoken to just don�t quite get it.

    Thanks!

    #2
    Distance sucks, hurts but at the same time you are blessed that you found that person. Your feelings are totally normal, it's OK to be sad about the whole thing . Just try and fill your time with something else than work, I understand you when you said you don't have money to go out meet ppl, I'm totally in the same situation, try indoor activities or volunteering or smthg like that . Just patience and be strong. I know a friend who was in the same situation with a bf having the same job, now they are happily married waiting for a baby. He still goes on cruises but they managed they lifes to not be bothered by that .
    Good luck ☺

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