I don't know what should i do about this?
We have been together for almost a year.
We have our ups and downs.
And right now,I'm just tired of this,just tired cos i feel I'm the only one making effort.
I know he is in a busy situation, his visa will end soon,he needs to get the job before his visa ends,his father retired and he needs to support his family,he is trying to take language classes as many as possible before his visa ends.
And he wish for staying there not goinng back to his hometown for work.
His family doesn't know about me yet,cause he said this is not the right time,cos he is need to focus for himself to make his family proud.
He has a bad past,his exes all leave him for other men,cos he is not ready yet,thats why he said he doesn't want to put to much in this relationship.
I am helping him with financial everytime he need,he never ask directly but indirectly.
He will be nice when he needs me but when he is busy i feel like he is ignoring me,when i ask why he said im just busy,whenever he has a free time he doesn't make extra effort to contact me,he message me one twice but if i didn't response so be it.
And when i came online late he will say i have a free time earlier but u weren't available.
But when he need something to ask or discuss he will contact me till i response.
I only ask him,if he is busy okay i will try tonunderstand but update me,like when he woke up or he is otw to work and when he reach home,thats all.
But he said he feel suffocated about that cos he never do that to anyone,and he said he is keep in touch with his friend n family only once in 2 weeks.
If he was online on fb or whatsapp he said it was about class or work not for fun.
He doesnt like to chat in the morning cos he is not a morning person,he doesn't like to chat while otw cos its so dificult to types,but sometimes he is online also,and when ge got back from work he usually doesn't have a good mood.
And even asking him hows ur day its a stupid question for him cos the answer ofcourse he is tired.
So i really don't know what should i do?
I am willing to wait but i don't want to waste my time also
And I'm tired of his attitudes.
Please i need ur guys input and advices.
Thanks so much.
We have been together for almost a year.
We have our ups and downs.
And right now,I'm just tired of this,just tired cos i feel I'm the only one making effort.
I know he is in a busy situation, his visa will end soon,he needs to get the job before his visa ends,his father retired and he needs to support his family,he is trying to take language classes as many as possible before his visa ends.
And he wish for staying there not goinng back to his hometown for work.
His family doesn't know about me yet,cause he said this is not the right time,cos he is need to focus for himself to make his family proud.
He has a bad past,his exes all leave him for other men,cos he is not ready yet,thats why he said he doesn't want to put to much in this relationship.
I am helping him with financial everytime he need,he never ask directly but indirectly.
He will be nice when he needs me but when he is busy i feel like he is ignoring me,when i ask why he said im just busy,whenever he has a free time he doesn't make extra effort to contact me,he message me one twice but if i didn't response so be it.
And when i came online late he will say i have a free time earlier but u weren't available.
But when he need something to ask or discuss he will contact me till i response.
I only ask him,if he is busy okay i will try tonunderstand but update me,like when he woke up or he is otw to work and when he reach home,thats all.
But he said he feel suffocated about that cos he never do that to anyone,and he said he is keep in touch with his friend n family only once in 2 weeks.
If he was online on fb or whatsapp he said it was about class or work not for fun.
He doesnt like to chat in the morning cos he is not a morning person,he doesn't like to chat while otw cos its so dificult to types,but sometimes he is online also,and when ge got back from work he usually doesn't have a good mood.
And even asking him hows ur day its a stupid question for him cos the answer ofcourse he is tired.
So i really don't know what should i do?
I am willing to wait but i don't want to waste my time also
And I'm tired of his attitudes.
Please i need ur guys input and advices.
Thanks so much.
Comment