For the ex-LDRs who got a divorce or broke up

[Framboise]

Hi everyone,

First, excuse my bad english, it's not my mothertongue and my boyfriend is not the best teacher in the world, haha!

I know it's not a really happy subject, but I was looking through YouTube videos today and I discovered that people talks a lot about their experience with divorce, and especially the lessons they learned after divorcing, what they could have done better, etc.

I am in a closed-the-distance-relationship, and sometimes I ask myself questions to make my relationship better: Sometimes we can learn great lessons from other people.

That's why my question is for the closed-the-distance-and-divorced-people, or closed-the-distance-and-broken-up-people, and it's something like: Why do you think it happens? What changes should have you done? If it was something you could do again, would you, or no?

Every piece of experience can be really interesting! Thank you in advance for your answers!

[erwin1973]

My first marriage was an LDR, closed the distance. What went wrong? I think we just were not fit for each other, although she did emotionally blackmail me (I found that out after I was devorced for two years). The marriage lasted for 10½ years and we have a son together. It was a difficult marriage, we never really understood each other and she always got things her way - like I didn't matter. That's all in hindsight, of course.
Would I do it again? Well, I am doing it again, so... yes. But why not? We were just not a good fit. With my current lady I have full confidence we are a perfect match.
What would I do different? Well, I don't know, actually. May be stand up for myself more, I guess...

[Framboise]

My first marriage was an LDR, closed the distance. What went wrong? I think we just were not fit for each other, although she did emotionally blackmail me (I found that out after I was devorced for two years). The marriage lasted for 10½ years and we have a son together. It was a difficult marriage, we never really understood each other and she always got things her way - like I didn't matter. That's all in hindsight, of course.
Would I do it again? Well, I am doing it again, so... yes. But why not? We were just not a good fit. With my current lady I have full confidence we are a perfect match.
What would I do different? Well, I don't know, actually. May be stand up for myself more, I guess...

You stayed long distance all the way through your relationship?

[erwin1973]

No, we closed the distance 11 months after our marriage.