Originally posted by Michelle
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If she needs someone to talk to about her dad, and she feels he is the only one she can open up to about this, then I think he should be able to set their relationship issues aside at least temporarily. Especially since he is interested in wanting to give their relationship another go.
Also okay she needs help, understandable, and he might comfort her, but what then? It won't make her want to go back together probably. And then he'll feel even more hurt because this kind of conversation gives hope and this type of emotional closeness is in the past, not coming back. I don't want to crucify her but I don't want the OP to feel bad or guilty for anything either. I know he doesn't want to move on yet himself but this just brings more pain to him regardless, unless they go back together. But that wouldn't make the relationship any healthier so this situation would repeat itself in some time again.
We are giving advice to him, not her and I think we shouldn't neglect how he potentially feels or ends up feeling either. I know he won't listen and he'll try to contact her again and all that. But it doesn't mean that it's generally right thing to do. Also, just because she's young, it doesn't mean her feeling better should come at the expense of others getting hurt. It's sad that she has to face so much this young but she has to play with the universe's rules, in which a break up means a break up and it's extremely unfair for someone to be expected to be there for her after that.
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