How do I convince him to do LDR?

[Jmvicic]

Hello!! My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 5 months, which doesn't seem like that long, but we have a really strong relationship (i.e. we love each other). We are both going to different grad schools next year, and he said that we will have to talk about our future (whether or not we will break up or do LDR). I really want to advocate for LDR, but I'm afraid that no matter what I say, he'll have a counterargument (assuming he doesn't want to do LDR); I can hardly ever win arguments against his logic. I don't know if he wants to do LDR or not, but just in case he has doubts, I want to be prepared. How can I convince him that LDR is worth trying?

P.S. I promise I'm just taking precautions. I don't actually know what his thoughts are; all he said was we have to talk about our future, and he has implied that breaking up is an option, but he also said that it's not the only option. When he brought it up, he said he had been thinking about it all day because of something I had said, and he said he felt really crappy; I'm not sure how to interpret that

[Rezie]

Show him how often you can meet up and offer a solution on what happenes when you graduate. At you willing to live anywhere or do you have limitations. Also there is nothing wrong with trying. If one month into the LDR it's not good, you can stop doing it.

but if it turns out he is against even trying then accept it. arguing against it will not end in a good relationship.

[paperplane]

Make it clear that you want what is best for both of you, and that you are willing to try long distance.

Listen to his concerns and address them as well as possible. Try to also be logical with him. If you were living in the same place, you would still run into issues. The distance doesn't have to be the end of your relationship.

If he wants to argue against an LDR then respect that. In the end, you can't convince someone to do something they don't want to do.

[2Rocky]

How do I convince him to do LDR?

You don't.

You both have to want it with all your heart. If one of you doesn't, it isn't going to work. You are better off being clear about each of your expectations upfront than fretting and wondering how each other feels.

If he is not 100% in , then talk about what works. You don't have to totally cut ties, but be clear on when you feel like trying to resume a relationship.

To be honest, despite being in an exclusive LDR relationship for over 2 years with a woman I will probably marry, I'd probably try to talk a young couple into seeing what and who else was out there and see where life takes them. I feel like for an LDR to be viable, one person has to be established and the other has to be mobile and able to move to the other.

I know that with the communication and travel I have in our LDR, I would not have been able to sustain that in Grad School. Based on Time, Money and Maturity.