Am I the only one who is curious about Long distance relationship.?

[shijinnath]

I always feel so curious when i get to know long distance love. How it happened? How does it lasts? Does it fades over time? Is it just a few month infatuation and then back to normal?

[Littlewhiteflower]

How it happened?

- we met through a penpal website (I needed to practice english and he wanted to meet new friends). We start texting, phone/video calling. We met a year after at christmas time (2016) during 12 days. We fell in love. Then, we went back LD for 4 months. I went to live with him for the summer 2017. When I left, he came to live with me for 4 months (due to medical reasons). We got engaged at christmas 2017. We went back LD for 4 months and now i am with him for the next 2 months and a half.

How does it last?

- with lot of communication (phone, video, letters, etc) and trust.
-by keeping in mind that the distance will not last forever.
-with as much visits as possible (in my case)
-commitment from both sides

Does it fade over time?

-the honeymoon period goes away but the first meeting after a long time apart is always magical. I would not say it fades. It changes in the sense that if you learn to trust and love your partner completely, you become comfortable and secure over time. It would fade only if you don't communicate enough/start living your life without consideration of your partner or respect the needs of the other, etc. If it fades LD, it risks to fade in close distance too. That is what i am trying to say.

Last question

-feeling off happens. The best way to deal with it (according to my experience) is to communicate your feelings with your SO.

[RWhiz]

How does it happen?

After I split up with my wife of 20 years I went on line to start dating. I didn't look for a long distance relationship however. I misinterpreted her location when I reached out to her. I though she was in San Jose CA, not too far from Tahoe, but she was in WA State! Anyway we started a nice conversation that lead to where we are today. Many meetings, visits, a developing relationship, and this Sunday I fly up to WA to move her in with me.

What makes it last?

The same thing as a regular relationship, communication, regular time together, attraction. To us it was a goal too. We rarely left a visit with out getting the arraignments set up for our next visit. We made a plan after my idea of bi-monthly hook-ups wasn't going to pan out to move in together. Always move forward.

Does it fade over time?

IMO yes, just like a normal relationship it will change and develop. If the couple lets it fade it will, however the additional challenge with a LDR is in some cases there isn't regular physical contact which is a part of a healthy relationship. If the couple can work out regular visits than it will develop like a regular relationship. I talked in an earlier post about what I call relationship purgatory which is where a LDR stalls out because the partners can't work towards getting together. I believe that regardless of the time line, the couple needs to have a date set to live together, of course once they reach that development stage in the relationship that is!

I've been with my GF for 10 months, we met about 5 weeks into chatting and haven't been apart for more than 3 weeks. LDRs make you go slower in the beginning of your relationship, and force the trust issue to the forefront. I can say that without a doubt I trust my GF more than anything. I sometimes think that since we were so attracted to each other that we would have gone too fast and blown up. I still can't keep my hands off her! I don't think LDRs are a great thing or a terrible thing, just one way of getting to know a new person and developing a relationship in a slightly different manner. It helped for us in that we are both professional people, had good jobs and were at a stage in life where we were busy enough to not miss each other too bad between visits. I got to know the Seattle area, which is cool, and she got to see Tahoe. We kind of showed off our respective locations, although I could get tired of the Seahawks stuff everywhere

[differentcountries]

How it happened?
- We met when I was on vacation, we knew some people in common and I visited the restaurant where he worked.

How does it last?
- We talk online every day, and often send each other pictures of ourselves and our daily lives. Spring has finally come to my city, and I sent him som pics of flowers today. We vary in how often we talk on the phone or Skype, but prefferably a couple of times a week (this also depends on our jobs. I just declined to Skype with SO because his job ends 6 hours before mine starts and I cant go every time with just a few hours of sleep). I make a priority to visit him, with my time and money. I usually visit him because I have it easier with visa rules, money and vacation time. He visited me once, and hope he can visit me again in winter. We are also devoted to our relationship, we dont look elsewhere.

Does it fades over time?
Love is different after a while, but we are still very much in love.

Is it just a few month infatuation and then back to normal?
- We have dated long distance for almost 5 years now. Since we live in different countries, it takes a while to close the distance.

[shijinnath]

Interesting. And both are from same country?

[snow]

How it happened?
The only way it could have, honestly. We met online playing video games. It's what we love doing and I can't imagine any other scenario where I could have run into him by accident. They do say you'll find love doing what you love most

How does it lasts?
We spent most of our days together. We talked all the time and if we didn'T feel like talking, we would sit on TeamSpeak in silence and just enjoy knowing there is someone on the other side for us. Not gonna lie, the times apart were horrible and after I moved to the US to finally be with my now-husband, it took me months to heal the wounds of HAVING to leave the man I love.

Does it fades over time?
No, not for us. I believe it actually got stronger with time. In the beginning you get to know each other and figure things out. We used to argue a lot when we first started dating because our cultures are different and I was raised in a Polish household with much less freedoms than he is used to. It took us a while to work through the kinks, but I think the more we talked and got to know each other, the more we enjoyed each other's company.

Is it just a few month infatuation and then back to normal?
I feel like this part is what you make of it. Is it as exciting as it was the first months when everything was fresh and new? No, however, we hold hands whenever we go somewhere together, we try to show each other each day that we love and care about each other so I would say it turns into love from infatuation and if you keep up on it, it lasts a lifetime ♥

Originally I am from Austria, he is American

[TaraMarie]

In my case it happened on Facebook
For us, it doesn't fade over time. It evolved to something better. He's my best friend and my soul mate.
It's lasted 6 years and we've been happily married for almost two. We've been living together full time for 6 months and loving nearly every minute of it. It's lasted because we are committed and we put a lot of work into us.

[longlovelost]

What's more, I'm not the only one. I hear examples of overcoming adversity about long-separate connections all the time. A portion of the most joyful couples I know are in long-remove relationship a few or constantly. Most specialists even believe it's extremely sound for a relationship to start when two individuals live in better places.

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