Hello! I've just recently registered here since I need much support on a relationship which is really meaningful to me. It's been going since 1 year and as the title implies, it's about past mistakes that make my girlfriend feel bad once it gets dragged back into thoughts. I really care for her and I need to assure her best so I'm trying hard to make these solved, she's going through enough already and these thoughts really shouldn't pester her all too much.
There have been many problems as we didn't know that well each other, therefore unaware of what weaknesses. One time there was something planned with her where I agreed that we could do together, however later as I begun she felt intimidated for some reason and the plans ended up being cancelled, she upset. Now this is just an example but it always puts walls between us. Once something happens it's avoided and if it's talked about it she begins to feel bad, saying that we will never do or plan something like that's again. She distances herself for a while ( or goes to sleep ) until she has something else on mind and I'm afraid to sum it up again. She's really sensitive when it comes to her loved once, also there's a lack of trust.
There has never happened anything such as cheating or whatever, I deal with her temper with ease but also I want her best after all and her freedom. I've been loyal throughout these hard times but I really need help to push our relationship to a maximum. What could I do to free her mind?
There have been many problems as we didn't know that well each other, therefore unaware of what weaknesses. One time there was something planned with her where I agreed that we could do together, however later as I begun she felt intimidated for some reason and the plans ended up being cancelled, she upset. Now this is just an example but it always puts walls between us. Once something happens it's avoided and if it's talked about it she begins to feel bad, saying that we will never do or plan something like that's again. She distances herself for a while ( or goes to sleep ) until she has something else on mind and I'm afraid to sum it up again. She's really sensitive when it comes to her loved once, also there's a lack of trust.
There has never happened anything such as cheating or whatever, I deal with her temper with ease but also I want her best after all and her freedom. I've been loyal throughout these hard times but I really need help to push our relationship to a maximum. What could I do to free her mind?
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