Hi all,
My man and I have been in a relationship for 1.5 years. He had to move to another state for a 6 month job assignment and we were in LDR.
Please don’t judge me but I am actually unhappily married and husband was aware of my relationship and supportive of it. I gave up on trying to save my marriage and fell madly in love with J.
J and I saw each other last week, he visited me. It was beautiful, but I kept thinking how I should give one last try to save my marriage and how I should do it for my child. I picked up a small fight, knowing that J doesn’t like handling conflicts. It ended up being an ugly breakup in my side, saying mean and hurtful things to him. I thought this will help rip off the bandaid, go home and try to start clean.
Hours later I regretted it deeply. I’m utterly devastated, severely depressed and miss James more than anything. It’s been 10 days of NC on his side. I’ve been pleading, begging, trying to apologize and express how sincerely sorry I am for hurting him, but he is silent.
I know I hurt him and many will judge me. I felt like invite about to bunjee jump and staring at the unknown I got cold feet.
I am so ready to jump now. I miss him constantly, I have severe panic attacks, depressive episodes and frantically try to reach and apologize to him. He hasn’t blocked me and can see he ignores, but occasionally reads my messages.
But he is so so far away. Do you think it will be a good idea to surprise visit him and profoundly apologize, explains all this to him? Can he forgive me if I make a point of never acting on my emotions so impulsively and show him that I have made my mind once and for all and that I am ready to divorce and be with him?
Is there any hope here, is his ego hurt? I’m sure he feels mad but not answering makes me feel like he has already moved on, and I fear that giving him space to heal from this will only distance us more, possibly for good. I want my love back. I was so strupid. Please help me!
My man and I have been in a relationship for 1.5 years. He had to move to another state for a 6 month job assignment and we were in LDR.
Please don’t judge me but I am actually unhappily married and husband was aware of my relationship and supportive of it. I gave up on trying to save my marriage and fell madly in love with J.
J and I saw each other last week, he visited me. It was beautiful, but I kept thinking how I should give one last try to save my marriage and how I should do it for my child. I picked up a small fight, knowing that J doesn’t like handling conflicts. It ended up being an ugly breakup in my side, saying mean and hurtful things to him. I thought this will help rip off the bandaid, go home and try to start clean.
Hours later I regretted it deeply. I’m utterly devastated, severely depressed and miss James more than anything. It’s been 10 days of NC on his side. I’ve been pleading, begging, trying to apologize and express how sincerely sorry I am for hurting him, but he is silent.
I know I hurt him and many will judge me. I felt like invite about to bunjee jump and staring at the unknown I got cold feet.
I am so ready to jump now. I miss him constantly, I have severe panic attacks, depressive episodes and frantically try to reach and apologize to him. He hasn’t blocked me and can see he ignores, but occasionally reads my messages.
But he is so so far away. Do you think it will be a good idea to surprise visit him and profoundly apologize, explains all this to him? Can he forgive me if I make a point of never acting on my emotions so impulsively and show him that I have made my mind once and for all and that I am ready to divorce and be with him?
Is there any hope here, is his ego hurt? I’m sure he feels mad but not answering makes me feel like he has already moved on, and I fear that giving him space to heal from this will only distance us more, possibly for good. I want my love back. I was so strupid. Please help me!
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