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    Bf only finds me attractive sometimes?

    So me and my bf met and have been together LD officially for 2-3 months, and even before that we would sex text sometimes (as we were still getting to know each other) and talk everyday. We still do now. However, since officially getting together he said we should only "sex text" sometimes towards our meet up date as he said he prefers the real thing than virtual sex. I try to not take it personally, however whenever I would initiate recently (I'm horny most of the time tbh, if not all the time) he he would say it was hot or sexy / cute - but not respond sexually in the way I want. He does reply to me sexually sometimes but not all the time I initiate. But I don't know why this is. I've tried talking to him about it lately and he says he does find me sexually attractive as he does enjoy himself to my pics and vids sometimes, but admits he prefers to watch porn the majority of the time. Also, he has been really busy recently but does make an effort to talk to me nearly every day.

    This has really lowered my self-esteem as it makes me feel as if I am not good 'physically' enough for him to meet his needs. We have great emotional intimacy. But I don't know whether it is the case that he is getting bored of sex-texting, prefers the real thing and/or to watch porn. However, he even admits that this is the first time he has felt this - his other exes which were not long distance (I am his first LD gf); he would find attractive most of the time and not only sometimes. But I don't know if it is because we talk every day that he is getting a little bored of me or he doesn't find me attractive at all.

    I just don't know how to feel about it really.
    Last edited by HopeleesRomantic; March 6, 2019, 03:32 PM.

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    A question to ask here might be if he finds the effort to sext a bit overwhelming/he doesn't have enough energy to do it often. My SO and I both agree that sexting can be fun but it is a lot of effort to think of things to say in response, and to get the whole thing flowing. Since SO and I live together now we don't really do that anymore, but with our other partner not living with us yet, she quite likes to sext and there have been times where after a long day at work i don't have the energy or the mental capacity to do it and if i am feeling in the mood I'd rather just go to bed and take care of myself.

    He might have worded it badly that he is attracted to you only some of the time, maybe he only means he is into sexting some of the time. I'd definitely bring it up againa nd just ask him to clarify, and also ask what would make him more comfortable
    my girls <3

    Josie (SO)
    Met online ~ 17th August 2017 ~
    Met in person ~ 30th August 2017 ~
    Became official ~ 15th September 2017 ~
    Closed the distance and moved in together! ~ 18th June 2018 ~

    Ash
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