I've never anticipated being in a LDR, but due to sudden unforeseen circumstances I ended up in one.
Brief background:
I was 29 and she was 24 and we're both foreigners in a country. We met on a dating site and since we're both working in the same city, it was easy to meet up. We met within 2 weeks of chatting online and were officially dating by week 5. This was just over a year ago. I deleted my account from the dating site but she didn't. It was mutually understood that we were serious and exclusive. I didn't mind her not deleting her account as long as she didn't sign in anymore.
Throughout this year, everything was excellent. We travelled to different countries and met each other's parents. However, unexpectedly, the company I was working for failed to sponsor me and I wasn't able to get a working visa. This meant I had to leave the country. My girlfriend, on the other hand, is still tied to her job for at least another 2-3 years. That's the beginning of our LDR. We already made plans to move to our home country asap or when her contract is over. I know that she wants to get married and have children soon.
Recently:
We communicate on whatsapp daily, typing and sending voice messages. We occasionally video call each other and send each other photos. I felt satisfied and trusted her completely at this stage. However, after a few months, a friend of mine informed me that he saw my gf's active on the dating site. I created an account using fake details to find out myself.
True enough, my gf was active. I decided to message her with my fake persona to see what's going on. She said that her last relationship was a year ago. I explicitly asked her out on a date and she said yes (There was no sexual content and not a lot of flirting).
Her response completely shattered my trust and I'm confused about what to do. What do you guys think?
Brief background:
I was 29 and she was 24 and we're both foreigners in a country. We met on a dating site and since we're both working in the same city, it was easy to meet up. We met within 2 weeks of chatting online and were officially dating by week 5. This was just over a year ago. I deleted my account from the dating site but she didn't. It was mutually understood that we were serious and exclusive. I didn't mind her not deleting her account as long as she didn't sign in anymore.
Throughout this year, everything was excellent. We travelled to different countries and met each other's parents. However, unexpectedly, the company I was working for failed to sponsor me and I wasn't able to get a working visa. This meant I had to leave the country. My girlfriend, on the other hand, is still tied to her job for at least another 2-3 years. That's the beginning of our LDR. We already made plans to move to our home country asap or when her contract is over. I know that she wants to get married and have children soon.
Recently:
We communicate on whatsapp daily, typing and sending voice messages. We occasionally video call each other and send each other photos. I felt satisfied and trusted her completely at this stage. However, after a few months, a friend of mine informed me that he saw my gf's active on the dating site. I created an account using fake details to find out myself.
True enough, my gf was active. I decided to message her with my fake persona to see what's going on. She said that her last relationship was a year ago. I explicitly asked her out on a date and she said yes (There was no sexual content and not a lot of flirting).
Her response completely shattered my trust and I'm confused about what to do. What do you guys think?
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