Hi everyone, I am brand new here. Like everyone else I am hoping to make some friendships with those who are experiencing and have experience with LDRs. I find no one in my “reality” can really offer support or understanding due to the unfamiliar nature of LDRs.
I met my SO online, randomly, over a year ago. He lives in Germany. I am in Australia. He has flown out once to meet me, and we spent 2.5 weeks together. The experience of meeting seemed to solidify what we experience together as real and push us into new territory.
The reason I am here is because I feel he does my head in for much of the time. He is so strict, and unyielding in so many ways. He constantly makes me feel like I am a disappointment to him. It is the case of, when things are good they are great, but when things are bad they are intolerable. He is German! I am Australian! We have completely different ways of seeing almost everything! Yet somehow we persevere, and we enjoy the good moments when they happen. But it is so up and down, I don’t think I am cut out for it.
He has had years of experience with LDR relationships before me. Whereas this is my first. I don’t know how we can open up to one another when I feel he is always at my throat. He gets upset when I seem unhappy but then accuses me of being self-centred. He wants me to talk about how I feel but doesn’t like what he hears when I do.
Has anybody else ever felt that they are just not good enough? And does it seem fair to be the one who has to end it when it is the other person who is dissatisfied?? Sorry, this is a very impulsive rant!
I met my SO online, randomly, over a year ago. He lives in Germany. I am in Australia. He has flown out once to meet me, and we spent 2.5 weeks together. The experience of meeting seemed to solidify what we experience together as real and push us into new territory.
The reason I am here is because I feel he does my head in for much of the time. He is so strict, and unyielding in so many ways. He constantly makes me feel like I am a disappointment to him. It is the case of, when things are good they are great, but when things are bad they are intolerable. He is German! I am Australian! We have completely different ways of seeing almost everything! Yet somehow we persevere, and we enjoy the good moments when they happen. But it is so up and down, I don’t think I am cut out for it.
He has had years of experience with LDR relationships before me. Whereas this is my first. I don’t know how we can open up to one another when I feel he is always at my throat. He gets upset when I seem unhappy but then accuses me of being self-centred. He wants me to talk about how I feel but doesn’t like what he hears when I do.
Has anybody else ever felt that they are just not good enough? And does it seem fair to be the one who has to end it when it is the other person who is dissatisfied?? Sorry, this is a very impulsive rant!
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