Feeling a bit 1 sided

[Littleapple]

Hiya.
Doing the whole long distance relationship is hard work.been nearly a year im in the UK bf is in Canada.ive been over 4 times this year 5th in 21 days time spending Christmas over there this year.anyway I've been doing all the travelling.hes not put in for his passport cause he knows soon as he has it I'll want him to come over here to visit which makes everything easier get to see each other more.but he's put it off cause he's scared his aniexty will get the better of him being out his comfort zone.i understand all that but for this to keep working I need to see this being 2 sided effort not just me.he said he's going to apply after the new year and I'll go Over for a visit and he flies back with me show him it's not that scary.i had never left the UK before or even flown I was scared doing all myself but I enjoy taking chances and pushing myself out my comfort zone.
Question is do I now wait till after the new year and set myself a time limit to see if he gets his passport.i love the guy hence why I go over every chance I've gotten but I can't keep doing it.i know if he doesn't it a going to hurt like hell but I need to look out for myself aswell.

[MsGrim]

Hi!

I can see where he is coming from with the anxiety, I have it terribly and just the thought of being in a new place and/or traveling alone to a new country can be a bit overwhelming. Just stay patient with him, I think he will be okay once he gets over that first flight/visit. How about when you go for Christmas you and him go do the passport together? That way you know its been taken care of and it may also show him that you're in this with him.

Just stay patient and definitely express to him how you are feeling about being the only one traveling for visits.

[Atlantic Crossroads]

I can relate to this.
My guy has severe anxiety too, and he hates flying.
He doesn't have a useable passport either, so it falls to me to visit him.
We talked about this last night in fact, because as it stands currently I hold all the responsibility for keeping us afloat and I am getting resentful from the pressure, which isn't good.
The plan at the moment is for him to get his passport in the new year too, and I also said I would fly out to him, and we could fly back together.

I wonder if our guys are related? Or his he a Capricorn or Gemini by chance?

[Littleapple]

Aries and virgo...I was the same.i enjoy the travelling going there coming but not great cause it takes me forever to get back into my time zone and back to work etc..so I do somtimes think why am I doing all the running here.but after we had a talk few months back I could finally understand why he's put it off for so long.cause I ended up thinking I didn't mean anything and was just he was just settling out of boredom till somthing better came along but he's reassured me everything he says is true and told me the reasons why..bad experiences from.ex's which he just finds it hard to trust but he knows now I'm not put to hurt him.this time.lasy year if someone said about long distance relationship honestly I would have laughed and said not for me lol and he appeared and I'm.doing somthing I didn't think was possible.so hopefully he does finally fly over