Couples Counselling

[Atlantic Crossroads]

We are looking at doing this. I know us closing the distance will be challenging and stressful for us both, and we haven't spent a great deal of time together in person either. I want us to have as strong of a relationship as we can, and I think counselling would be a good way to achieve that for us.
In short, I want us to have the best chance of weathering the storms together.

Has anyone else done couples counselling?
If so, could you recommend anyone who would be good?
Possibly an online service, though ideally I'd prefer in person. Though that would make things logistically tricky.

[Redheart14]

Have you thought about going to someone together when you first close the distance?

[Atlantic Crossroads]

We could do it that way too.
I'm just thinking we could do with the additional support before we make the transition.
I wonder if there are LDR counselling specialists. That's probably a very niche market though.

[vivid_idea]

Hi Atlantic,

I just came across this thread of yours Did you ever end up finding any couples counselling services online, and use any? I am wondering if it is a good avenue to go down to try to navigate some of the issues associated with LDRs

[Atlantic Crossroads]

I haven't so far, unfortunately. I currently have my own therapist, but that is to help me manage my diagnosis. Although, I'm as I'm seeing him next week I will ask if he can point me in the right direction.

[vivid_idea]

That would be wonderful if you asked, thank you! Lately I’ve been thinking how tough it is for those contending with distance. I think professional help could be really supportive. After all, communication often is a sore spot. At least for us.

How are you doing?

I am slowly feeling more and more reclusive because of this covid situation. I know it’s not so healthy, but my job was suspended because of it, and I’ve had to be helping my kids at home with their school. And I basically feel like my life was turned on it’s head. It makes me feel a bit depressed tbh. I also find it difficult to maintain a relationship (especially a LDR) when I am feeling a bit down. We are going ok though, some ups and downs, but it’s pretty clear we are both here to stick it out.

I was feeling pretty defeated the other day and was almost thinking it might be better to have some time out and reassess where we both are at. But then he called me. And I heard his voice. And everything else melted away. Love has a way of always making you find your way back to each other, hey

[Atlantic Crossroads]

I wonder if there's something in the air? We just had a 3 hour call, because I was feeling so depressed and defeated thinking about our wedding. I can't see us doing anything other than an elopement because of flying and cost. I just can't see a version of a wedding I'd be truly happy with right now. I guess I'm worried that I never will. I'd like it to be a special day to look back on, but it doesn't feel like it will be with nobody there.

[Philatomanc]

Hello, I can empathize with your situation, my boyfriend and I did a sort of home-made couples “therapy” together when we were struggling with issues and ideas of the future. I can see if I have the document still, pretty much I found some videos on better ways to communicate (I-statements, bids for connection, etc. ) and we scheduled one day a week to talk about it and air any grievances we had that day for three weeks. Although it’s not a substitute for counseling, I found it really connecting and helpful as a way to patch things up until we can see each other again

[vivid_idea]

That sounds wonderful, thank you!