Things changed after closing the distance?

[beepboop]

My boyfriend moved in with me at the end of February and had been in my state for a month. He has a job and has had time to settle in. We have all of his stuff set up (he’s super into tech) so that it feels a little more like home. We have a pretty loving relationship. We’ve been together for almost a year and he’s the most amazing man. Every aspect of our relationship is great, (NSFW) except for the sex.
We used to be super sexual with each other when we were apart. We would have phone sex pretty much every day and when we would visit, we would have sex multiple times in a day. I had no complaints. But now? It’s so different. He moved in and for the first two weeks, he barely touched me. I mentioned it to him and he said he was just stressed because of work and that he knew he should make an effort to be more physical. I let it go because I know how stressful the moving process is.
After that, he did get more cuddly and such but the sex turned into him getting what he needed and then going to sleep. He literally fell asleep on top of me, while he was still in me. He didn’t tell me he loved me, kiss me or just ask if I was okay. He did this multiple times. It made me super sad. I felt so used and hurt and never said a word because I was just hoping that one day it would be different.
I finally brought it up because I was waking up every morning crying. He apologized and said he didn’t want me to feel used. He said he wanted me to feel as good as him. That was probably 2 weeks ago and we’ve had sex twice. The day after I told him those things and probably 6 days ago. I’ve tried initiating so many times. I’ve been literally rubbing his dick every day and kissing on him. I literally put his hand on my vagina and just nothing. There’s nothing from him.
It feels like we only have sex when he wants to and it sucks. I don’t know how to bring it up anymore without him only having sex with me out of obligation. And who wants their partner to have sex with them because they “have” to? I love him so much but I am so frustrated. He keeps himself entertained with work and then his xbox and the extent of our love life is cuddling and kissing. It just hurts so much knowing that we closed the distance so we could do whatever we want with each other, but we do nothing compared to when we were apart.

[Lupin]

I am sorry that you are experiencing this beepboop! :-( Your needs and emotions are important and incredibly valid, you should speak with your boyfriend about how he is making you feel. If something is bothering you, it's important. It doesn't matter how many times you need to talk about it, you deserve to be reassured.

I think for most LDR couples the intimacy does tend to slow down when the distance is closed, but this is pretty inexcusable to me. Your boyfriend tells you he doesn't want you to feel used, but his actions are absolutely contradicting this. Sex should never be a selfish act, it's about mutual love and respect. He says he wants you to feel good? Well then he needs to stop being selfish and satisfy your needs! Sounds like he's just trying to keep you sweet. I don't know much about your sex life, but perhaps next time you're getting down to business place a lot more focus and attention on foreplay? Make sure all that attention is on you, he can get his afterwards! Be vocal, ask him to do 'X' and 'Y'. Take a little control and make sure he knows he won't be able to get any satisfaction until you're satisfied, flip the cards a bit? It sounds like you have a high sex drive and there is nothing wrong or shameful about that, equally you may need to respect that his sex drive may be lower and perhaps he just doesn't want/need sex every day. If that is a problem it needs to be communicated.

I hope things improve for you!