Need Advice - LDR with Depression

[Angel]

The Volikov test is closely related to Astrology.

I do not wish to start an argument, but personally I am skeptical.

I know. So was I. But after using it for several years I've chagned my opinion. It helped a lot with honest people and liars, never failed me. However, it's not the main point here. My main advice is to avoid false people and to keep concentrating on bettering your own life first. When you concentrate on yourself people get interested in you.

[Philatomanc]

You need to keep reminding yourself that whilst his depression may affect his behaviour, they are two separate entities. He is not his depression, and the depression isn't him. It's difficult sometimes to remember that, but it's key. You will both suffer because of it, and it's cruel and unfair. But the man you love is still in there, I promise.

Big sympathetic hugs your way.

Thank you for the tips and kind words 🤗 I definitely notice his sleep is suffering from his depression, I’ll suggest some of these ideas and see if they make a difference! I agree that I had to change my mindset from being sad that he’s depressed to both of us getting through his depression together, making it less personal if that makes sense. He told me the other day he doesn’t know how to act with me like before he got sick, but he went back and read some of our messages when we started dated and that seemed to have brought him back a bit to being more loving. I wish the best for you and your fiancé and am happy to hear the two of you have made it through a tough situation like this!

[Atlantic Crossroads]

Thank you for the tips and kind words �� I definitely notice his sleep is suffering from his depression, I’ll suggest some of these ideas and see if they make a difference! I agree that I had to change my mindset from being sad that he’s depressed to both of us getting through his depression together, making it less personal if that makes sense. He told me the other day he doesn’t know how to act with me like before he got sick, but he went back and read some of our messages when we started dated and that seemed to have brought him back a bit to being more loving. I wish the best for you and your fiancé and am happy to hear the two of you have made it through a tough situation like this!

If you can do the same as him, in reading through old messages too, it does make a positive difference. It helped me to remember all the millions of reasons that I love him, on top of reminding me what he's really like underneath.
It is quite like being in a sinister love triangle. It's tough going.

My man has been trying to find employment for years now. He's had interviews, but no one will give him a chance. It really does take a toll on your mood, being rejected so often. I'm very fortunate that I don't have that problem currently.