Covid-19 nightmare :( almost one year not seeing each other

[aussiegirl]

Hi fellow ldr people. Thought I'd give this a go because tbh the isolation and struggle with me and my fiancè is so overwhelming and nobody else gets it.
My love lives in the states, I'm in Australia. When the pandemic was announced in March Australia shut it's border it has banned us from LEAVING the country at all. I'm among thousands forced apart from partners. I have MS and three months ago i got diagnosed with a heart condition which doctor links to anxiety attacks related to this.

My life is a huge mess right now. My partner is studying and working in seattle, contracted there. I'm completely alone. We just had a falling out, first one in forever frankly. But I know the distance is making it so hard for both of us. I was meant to see him in May, as of now it was last October we were together.

I hope I can find some support here my family and friends keep telling me to leave him. But we are the same as any other couple, we are crazy about each other, enough to want to marry and endure this distance for two and a half years now. I'm so tired of having our relationship belittled.

Anyone else going through this? -_-

[vivid_idea]

Hi Aussiegirl, welcome to the forum. I am an Aussie Girl, too!

Most of us can relate to what you are feeling in one way or another. We are all just trying to get through these uncertain times the best that we can. You will definitely find support here, and other people who understand what you are going through. I know that people in our "real life" often do not understand or validate our relationship and that can make us feel very alone. Rest assured, there are a lot of people on here who are in loving, committed LDRs.

I find it helps to focus on the good things. For example, I know that my SO and I must really love each other to both endure the distance and everything that goes with it. I know we will be reunited one day and that it will be the most wonderful day of both of our lives!

Hang in there!

[aussiegirl]

Hi Aussiegirl, welcome to the forum. I am an Aussie Girl, too!

Most of us can relate to what you are feeling in one way or another. We are all just trying to get through these uncertain times the best that we can. You will definitely find support here, and other people who understand what you are going through. I know that people in our "real life" often do not understand or validate our relationship and that can make us feel very alone. Rest assured, there are a lot of people on here who are in loving, committed LDRs.

I find it helps to focus on the good things. For example, I know that my SO and I must really love each other to both endure the distance and everything that goes with it. I know we will be reunited one day and that it will be the most wonderful day of both of our lives!

Hang in there!

Thank you. It does help to focus on those things. I think I'm at the point where I'm done trying to validate my relationship for others. Me and my partner have spent hours getting to know each other beyond what most people invest. My sister is particularly judgemental. I've decided just to not tell her about what's going on with us anymore

[MsGrim]

It's a shame your family is encouraging you to leave him! Have they met him before? Most families of LDR relationships don't understand the connection and love between the couple.. And honestly, most people outside of the family can't wrap their head around it either. I was once a non believer, lol.. Not like I shunned people, I just didn't understand and could never picture myself in a LDR. But here I am!!

Best of luck to you and your SO.

[aussiegirl]

It's a shame your family is encouraging you to leave him! Have they met him before? Most families of LDR relationships don't understand the connection and love between the couple.. And honestly, most people outside of the family can't wrap their head around it either. I was once a non believer, lol.. Not like I shunned people, I just didn't understand and could never picture myself in a LDR. But here I am!!

Best of luck to you and your SO.

It is just my sister. My dad doesn't care where he's from as long as he treats me right. He had to watch me go through abusive relationships before this so yeah my SO now has never raised his voice, hand at me or ever called me a name.

They haven't met him, he has been under a really strict contract in seattle for past two and half years, they never give him any time off so I am the one who flies over there.

I really think in this day and age, with everything that's going on, just let people love who they love. They're not hurting anyone.

Best of luck to you two also

[Lostviolinist]

Yea it sucks. But what other choice is there but to wait.