My boyfriend’s parents have never really taken an interest to our relationship, especially me, which I’ve never really let bother me because I haven’t met them, and up until recently I didn’t think it would be such a big deal since we wouldn’t be living near them. Now that our plans have changed, and we’ll be staying at him and his mother’s place since they run a family ranch together, when I move over there, it has became more of a concern for me. My parents were always very interested in my boyfriend and our plans, even before they met him, so I guess I’m not used to the kind of coldness on his family end. I’ve suggested talking to her on video, both when he was here with me, and when he’s back home, but she’s always turned it down. When he was here, she would often try and convince him to come back home early, and made him feel bad for even coming over here in the first place, which she has done each time he’s came over. The past few weeks he was here, over text she’d act like he wasn’t even here to see me, as she never asked what we were doing or how life was here, just asked him about what he’d be doing when he got back home.
I tried to keep faith even after all these things, but when he texted her to ask what she thought about me moving over there, she ignored the question altogether and just talked about something else, even when he asked her again she barely acknowledged it. When he got home yesterday, I asked him if she was at all interested in anything we got up to these past few weeks, which he said no, they barely spoke about it, and when the subject gets on to me it’s quickly changed. He assured me it’s because she hadn’t met me yet, but from the vibes I get now, I don’t know if that will change anything. I love him and want to be with him, but I wouldn’t just be living with him, and so I’d want to get along with her. My mother tried to start a conversation with her over Facebook a while back when he was over last summer, but she wasn’t really interested and ignored my mum after a few texts. I’ve tried to make an effort by offering to talk to her, but I don’t really see how she feels ‘neutral’ about me like my boyfriend says, when she doesn’t want to talk to me and avoids the subject of me altogether. I feel awful for making someone look bad that I haven’t met, but the vibes I’m getting are not good ones.
I don’t know what to do, it wouldn’t be that important if I wasn’t going to be spending a lot of time with her in the future, but I inevitably will be. Has anyone else had these issues when it comes to your partner’s parents? Did you ever overcome them?
I tried to keep faith even after all these things, but when he texted her to ask what she thought about me moving over there, she ignored the question altogether and just talked about something else, even when he asked her again she barely acknowledged it. When he got home yesterday, I asked him if she was at all interested in anything we got up to these past few weeks, which he said no, they barely spoke about it, and when the subject gets on to me it’s quickly changed. He assured me it’s because she hadn’t met me yet, but from the vibes I get now, I don’t know if that will change anything. I love him and want to be with him, but I wouldn’t just be living with him, and so I’d want to get along with her. My mother tried to start a conversation with her over Facebook a while back when he was over last summer, but she wasn’t really interested and ignored my mum after a few texts. I’ve tried to make an effort by offering to talk to her, but I don’t really see how she feels ‘neutral’ about me like my boyfriend says, when she doesn’t want to talk to me and avoids the subject of me altogether. I feel awful for making someone look bad that I haven’t met, but the vibes I’m getting are not good ones.
I don’t know what to do, it wouldn’t be that important if I wasn’t going to be spending a lot of time with her in the future, but I inevitably will be. Has anyone else had these issues when it comes to your partner’s parents? Did you ever overcome them?
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