Well tonight's my first night off in about a month, I've been super busy with school and marching band . I was GOING to go to a dance party my friend was having. However I could tell that my boyfriend didn't want me to go (he gets worried about me being around other guys). So I told him that I wouldn't go to the party and I'd spend the evening with him talking and playing games together. I got home from practice at 6 and he was just leaving go eat dinner with one of his friends, he still isn't back...well the party ended about an hour ago and I just spent my whole evening in my room alone browsing facebook. I really wish I had just gone to the stupid party and had a good time instead of waiting around for him to show up. Especially since I ditched the party just to avoid making him sad. Now I need to go to sleep anyways because I have such a busy days tomorrow.*sigh.....*
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that was really inconsiderate of him. i have done this before too btw. are you going to tell him??Comment
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Probably not....it wasn't exactly his fault, he wasn't expecting it to take so long. I'm just disappointed that I got my hopes up for nothing :/Comment
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I would be very irritated if that was me.
But, I must admit... I don't understand why you didn't go to the party in the first place. Since you and your SO should be able to trust each other enough, so he shouldn't worry about you being with other guys.
My SO is also a bit of a jealous type, but he doesn't have a problem with me going to parties and such.
Having a social life, when you're SO is not around is a very important thing.Comment
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*hugs* Sorry you had a crummy night.Comment
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If you guys are able to text or he has internet on his phone he could have at the very least messaged you/left a note on Facebook saying the dinner was running over. I've had it happen before and it's really frustrating because you made plans, but like you said sometimes you don't expect things to take the forever they do. I'm glad you're handling it the way you are, good sign of maturity and reasoning, which all relationships need. And hey, there will be other parties, other nights to spend with him.Comment
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now that is unfair. how come he can spend time with his friends and you cant because he's worried about you being around other guys???! i would be pissed off and yeah i would talk to him about it because thats really unfairComment
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She did say he didn't mean for it to go so long, so really it's not entirely his fault. I've had my guy run errands when he was to spend time with me and end up with no time because of traffic/buses being late/etc. It happens.Originally posted by Caitlin2009 View PostComment
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yeah alright i get that but he made her stay home when she wanted to go out because he was feeling insecure about her being around other guysOriginally posted by LadyMarchHare View PostComment
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He didn't make her, she chose not to because she knew it made him uncomfortable. It was a compromise that ended badly because of an unexpected monkey wrench thrown into the machine.Originally posted by Caitlin2009 View Post
And really, how many people here don't feel the same? I'd need both hands and feet to count maybe half the people on this forum who say they don't like their SO around 'potential threats'. It's not uncommon nor is it uncommon for that SO to choose to not be in those situations to avoid hurting the insecure one.Comment
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i might have read her post wrong, just waking up does that to you but you do have a point there i mean i tend to drop things if Denise needs me as well, but to me it sounded like he was the only one who could go out with his friends, like i said probably read it wrong...i do apologize!Originally posted by LadyMarchHare View PostComment
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Nah, I actually had to read it a couple times myself. It's worded in such a way that it could be interpreted like that.Originally posted by Caitlin2009 View PostComment
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Did he agree to spend time with you since you were staying home?!Originally posted by luna_banana View Post
Probably not? Why not? Maybe it wasn't 11pm when you posted that he still wasn't home but to me it looks like a 5 hour dinner? I don't know how much room there is for jealousy in these types of relationships?Originally posted by luna_banana View Post
Or, if you'd like to, you can tell me just to shut up and support you and I will do that too.Comment
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Okay guys, he didn't MAKE me stay home, in fact he was trying to act like he wanted me to go to the party. But I could tell that he was really insecure and upset about me going to the party so I offered to spend the night with him to keep us both happier.
He was actually really looking forward to spending the night together when I suggested it. I guess that sometime during the day he forgot that he had plans with me, and he scheduled to hang out with his friend. He also didn't expect the dinner to last until 10 his time....wtf.
Now that I think about it, this kind of thing has happened before. Sometimes even HE makes plans for us to webcam or something, and by the time I'm home he forgot and he's hanging out with a friend.
I guess I'm just sick of getting my hopes up for things that don't happen, and I'm sick of sacrificing my social life for his mental well-being. Sometimes when I'm out with friends I almost just want to lie and say I'm at home doing homework so he won't have a paranoia attack.Comment
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