I've been with my girlfriend for 2 months (3 months knowing each other and dating), and as of this post, her plane is taking off to take her back to the Philippines.
We currently don't know how long she is going to be gone, but we have talked about our plans to re-close the distance, ala the K1 visa, most likely.
She has told me that she does not want to start the K1 visa process until I officially propose, which I haven't done yet because I feel 2-3 months is too soon. But I do know that I want to marry her, so I'm torn between "when you know you know" and "don't rush into things and do something foolish"
She told me last night she wishes I would have married her while she was here so she didn't have to leave, and honestly there's a part of me that wishes I did, even tho we both know a rushed and impulsive marriage after such a short time would be irresponsible to our relationship.
I have a lot of trauma and hangups from a lifetime of failed relationships that just fizzled out, and im scared to death that the same may happen with her, because I've never loved anyone the way I love her.
I do trust that we can make it through the distance, and come out of it just as strong as ever, but im scared. And for my lack of relationship experience, I feel like I'm jumping straight into relationship hard mode.
We do have tentative plans for me to visit her when COVID stuff settles down, and even tho I feel like 2 months was too fast to marry / engage, I do plan to propose to her sooner than later, so hopefully the K1 process won't take a long time.
I have no idea what im getting into with the whole K1 process: how long it takes? How much it costs? How easy it is to get approved?
There is so much running through my head right now, so many different emotions. I feel like I made a mistake letting her get on the plane and go away. I'm scared.
This is all so new to me and I just don't know what to expect.
We currently don't know how long she is going to be gone, but we have talked about our plans to re-close the distance, ala the K1 visa, most likely.
She has told me that she does not want to start the K1 visa process until I officially propose, which I haven't done yet because I feel 2-3 months is too soon. But I do know that I want to marry her, so I'm torn between "when you know you know" and "don't rush into things and do something foolish"
She told me last night she wishes I would have married her while she was here so she didn't have to leave, and honestly there's a part of me that wishes I did, even tho we both know a rushed and impulsive marriage after such a short time would be irresponsible to our relationship.
I have a lot of trauma and hangups from a lifetime of failed relationships that just fizzled out, and im scared to death that the same may happen with her, because I've never loved anyone the way I love her.
I do trust that we can make it through the distance, and come out of it just as strong as ever, but im scared. And for my lack of relationship experience, I feel like I'm jumping straight into relationship hard mode.
We do have tentative plans for me to visit her when COVID stuff settles down, and even tho I feel like 2 months was too fast to marry / engage, I do plan to propose to her sooner than later, so hopefully the K1 process won't take a long time.
I have no idea what im getting into with the whole K1 process: how long it takes? How much it costs? How easy it is to get approved?
There is so much running through my head right now, so many different emotions. I feel like I made a mistake letting her get on the plane and go away. I'm scared.
This is all so new to me and I just don't know what to expect.
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