Last minute cancelations

[D_M]

God I hate this. And sorry, this is a bit of a rant. I realize others are in worse situations. But anyway...

I was due to video chat with my SO this evening. I'd been looking forward to it all day, for the last 4 days, and it would probably be our only chance to talk for the next week. I have various other stresses going on at the moment so I was hanging on this...

Just as I'm logging on to see if she was online I got a text saying her family have turned up for dinner so we won't be able to chat.

I expect her to prioritize her family and the people who are there in real life but talk about short notice. Sometimes I feel like I am at the back of the queue in terms of her priorities. And it's always her that does a late cancellation, for various reasons.

I have no doubt she loves me, and I love her, and in every other way we seem so perfect for each other but this one thing does my head in sometimes. I was so pissed off (for missing out more than at her) and I don't want to put it in text because that can be a slippery slope. But I will say this next time I talk to her whenever that will be.

Argh, so frustrating. I have to admit lately I have become completely over LDR. I love my SO and am 100% committed to her, but this has been a long period of distance and I am over it.

Anyway. Thanks for indulging me. I had to get that off my chest.

[MsGrim]

If this is something that she does often and you are feeling upset about it, you should talk to her and tell her how you feel. Even if it is a slippery slope, its a conversation that has to be had before any feelings of resentment start to brew. Hang in there <3

[OhioJim]

Pretty much what I was going to say, MsGrim.

I have noticed that 75% of the questions on LFAD have to do with fear and worry. It is far better to talk openly with your SO about a problem. Believe me, whatever the outcome the fear and worry about it is far worse!

[D_M]

We did talk, thanks. I told her I understood how family etc can turn up unexpectedly but I would have much prefered a quick phone call rather than a text. She understood and she is a compassionate person. In the heat of a moment she will forget though. I think this is something I have to accept about her.
And I agree, the worse is the fear and anxiety. I have had my fair share of that, but in this case I didn't fear she was cheating or losing interest. I was frustrated and upset to miss her, but in large part it was out of her control. too. So all I asked for is a phone call next time, makes all the difference I think.

[Valk the resurrected]

It is great that you have chosen to to her about this issue and I hope you have understood how relaxing it could be.

However, I feel like I should advice you to keep doing this, talking to her openly whenever you have suspicions otherwise it could end up thinking non-stop and having anxiety.