What is GOOD about being in an LDR?

[elina]

I like this thread

I also think that a LDR is a real test for the relationship, the cruelest kind, you might say. You wouldn't go through this kind of pain if you didn't love your SO with all your heart and want to spend the rest of your life with them.

I love the fact that I got to know his personality first and.. fell in love with it before anything else. Him being extremely good-looking is just a nice bonus But I think it makes the relationship stronger.. you get to know them inside out and it's amazing. I don't think I would've met Sam any other way, and I'm sooo grateful I found him.

Shaving.. I have to admit, I don't do it a lot either when he's not around Might have to start practising for when we live together Though I'm pretty sure he'd love me just as much even if I didn't shave every other day

And even though it sucks loads when you have to be apart, not being able to touch, hold, kiss etc., you gotta looooove the feeling you get every time you do get to see them again and hold them close to you ♥

[Caitlin2009]

oh yeah defiantly patience, because a year ago i didnt think we would ever make it to where we are now! and in a few months were gonna be married, and a few months after that i'm gonna be moving to the UK with her to start a new chapter in my life and finally be a LDR survivor! Even though i dont have it lol patience has been a good thing and will be rewarded very soon

[luna_banana]

I definitely enjoy not having to bother looking good every day lol....there's nobody here to bother looking good for XD
Some days I just wear a pair of pj pants and a hoodie to school, but when my boyfriend's here for those few days I can put a lot of effort into looking good for him

Also I think if we had stayed close-distance we might have begun to get on each other's nerves more, but now we treasure every moment together

[Silviar]

It builds communication skills. You know a person is really into you if they date you from afar - and you can have some great skype dates! Some people complain that people get together just for physical needs. LDR's prove that feelings and attachment, and having a secure relationship in hard times is possible.

I also think they help people develop a sense of self. You spend so much time balancing relationship needs with personal needs, and that's really good training for future life together, when you'll have to balance those still.

[Mio]

Opportunity to communicate endlessly.

[ms_angel]

Well, for me, what's good about this LDR thing is it will make you grow trust to each other. It will teach you both how to be patient and persevere. You can do the things you want BUT of course with certain limitations. Right?

[PríncipeAzul]

It seems that most of the time all of us are complaining about the bad things in our LDR. (me included!) It is so much easier to see the bad things in a relationship..well in life also. So...lets talk about the good things in your LDR.

One good thing for me is that when I don't want to shave my legs..I don't have to!

My relationship gives me HOPE. Hope in life, and in a GREAT future. Having hope makes all things easier to handle.

My relationship gives me pure, undenying, beautiful, true love.

So what do you think?!? What is something good that your LDR gives you?

What a great thread.

I love our LDR. Of coarse I dream of the day when she's done with school and we settle into an old beater box house that we can fix up. For now, we're doing incredible and I think we both benefit from our Long Distance Relationship.

She goes to out of state college and our separation allows her to focus on school more. It allows her to make new friends and spend time with friends that she otherwise wouldn't be able to if she was spending all her time with me like she does when we are together. She doesn't have to shave(I find it funny that you girls love that part), she doesn't have to try and impress anyone and she's willing to work more hours when she doesn't have school work because "Why not? If I don't get to see you I better be working on our wedding budget."

For me... I get some space. She's an incredible woman but I am a very laid back guy who enjoys his personal space. I enjoy going fishing with the guys, playing basketball with the guys, working out, reading, making money to put a ring on her finger and coach football. That's probably the kicker. With her gone all fall, I get to focus 100% on the high school football team I coach. There is no distractions to me and that's a big plus for my kids.

In a way, our Long Distance Relationship has given us the space we need to grow outside of the relationship. It's given us the confidence to test the limits of our relationship mentally and sexually. We're as solid as a rock and have few reservations about the distance. Only every blue moon does it hit us and that tends to be on cold and lonely nights we're without our cuddle buddy.

Great thread.

[agentholli]

I totally agree with you, I think that it really does make you grow to be a better person. You learn more about yourself and your limitations and how you can do things you didn't think you could..and that only benefits the relationship in the long run.

If you can make it through distance, you can make it through anything in a relationship..in my opinion.

[Moon]

I can appreciate my LDR in a lot of ways. Both of us were a few years out of horrible long-term relationships that left us never wanting to do it again, now not only did we manage to find each other, but we got to really know each other deeply through tons of communication we wouldn't have had otherwise. It's allowed us to pursue something so unexpectedly wonderful without losing our independence and freedoms. I don't think if we lived next door to each other that we'd have been able to do it, the LDR gave us each a chance to heal each other and not smother ourselves, while realizing that we have something amazing we weren't going to let go of. I'm satisfied with my LDR, and sure, I have days that I'd give anything to give him here, but that'll come in time. For now I'm happy with what I have, it's awesome

[Snowy.Winter]

I agree with all the shaving talk

I fell in love with my SO's personality first, so I got to know HIM. I also like when we see each other, we still have "that" spark. When we're alone, we're all over each other. And when we talk on the phone, and we have a laugh, it's just so nice to laugh at something that seems silly.

[littlewinged1]

My SO and I were together for over a year before we became long distance so we are used to being able to see each other whenever we wanted but the distance has helped us because now when we do get to see each other it's a gift. I appreciate him more now. Also it broke our routine. It's nice to get out of our comfort zone and experience new feelings together. I'm not worried about us being a normal high school couple that crumbles after graduation. As well as most on this thread, I'm a firm believer that if we can get through this we can survive anything! Though I want to be able to live with my SO in a couple years, for now the distance is good for us. We got our spark back

[Karringtyn]

I will never ever take my love for granted. I appreciate him so much more. Our times together are so special....and I know him on such a deeper level than anyone I know.

[becca53088]

My LDR has taught me patience, understanding, trust, communication skills, faith, and hope. And I definitely don't shave as much haha, but another nice thing about being in a LDR that I don't think was mentioned previously is that you are able to develop even more independence while still being in a great relationship. You don't have to feel guilty for having a girls night because your SO isn't there and then you can come home and call him/her later

[mrsbubbles]

My LDR has taught me patience, understanding, trust, communication skills, faith, and hope. And I definitely don't shave as much haha, but another nice thing about being in a LDR that I don't think was mentioned previously is that you are able to develop even more independence while still being in a great relationship. You don't have to feel guilty for having a girls night because your SO isn't there and then you can come home and call him/her later

Agreed on many accounts! I have more time to focus on my close friends (girls' night out, awww yeah!) and my ability to trust has skyrocketed. I was reluctant at first, since I had no idea what to expect, but it has really made us closer because there's a deep trust between us.

Respect is a wonderful thing too. I suffer from occasional bouts of low self esteem and when I get reassurance from people I barely know, it makes me smile. It speaks miles when someone is in a LDR and is dedicated to their SO. Like many others, my patience and understanding has grown and has even helped my relations with other people! I also really enjoy when we see each other after a long time after being apart, because I get butterflies in my stomach like the first time we kissed and other like memories. You appreciate the little things more.

I agree with PrincipeAzul, what an optimistic thread! Something I definitely needed.

[Tabitha]

It's definitely taught me to be more patient. It's also helped us to grow as a couple and helped us to learn to communicate well with one another.