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    Big fights?

    Ever had any with your SO? And I mean actual fights, not just some small arguments. Or maybe those too, that have turned into bigger ones. What have they been about?

    Earlier today I overheard (well.. eavesdropped kinda don't judge D: ) a part of some fight and the girl was screaming bloody murder outside our building, crying and begging the guy to open the door and.. it was awful

    It got me thinking.. I'm so glad I've never had any massive fights with Sam. A few arguments here and there and most of those have been silly and unnecessary, but never anything big. I hate fighting more than anything and I admit it, I suck at fighting. Thank god I'm pretty sure we'll never have bigger fights, I'd probably die

    #2
    My SO and I never had a big fight either. Arguments or tensions, yes. Those also sometimes ended with us ending the Skype call without warning, but other that... nothing. Thankfully.

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      #3
      We have never gotten into a fight or disagreement, but we have only been together 3.5 months and we're still in the early stages of our relationship, so that could very well change... I hope it doesn't though.

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        #4
        We've only had arguments, not actual fights.
        Me and him are the type of people who doesn't raise our voices, only change our tones... so think that if we do have "actual fights" in the future, those will probably sound more like annoyed arguments.

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          #5
          This might be me being dull, but what exactly do you define as the difference between an argument and a fight? I know a lot of people use the words interchangeably, myself included.

          If you mean a screaming match with fist fighting and whatnot, then we have never had one of those. But we have had some pretty serious arguments/discussions that have resulted mostly to the way we deal with the distance, and some other things I do not care to discuss. We might not yell and whatnot, but the tension is there. Whenever this happens, we might not solve all of the issue right away, but we always make up the morning after and discuss what we can do to solve the issue at hand.

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            #6
            Originally posted by Bluestars View Post
            This might be me being dull, but what exactly do you define as the difference between an argument and a fight? I know a lot of people use the words interchangeably, myself included.
            Erm well what I meant with.. fights or how I think of them is.. where you might raise your voice (should you have that.. quality in you) and maybe say stuff that can really hurt the other one and that might take quite a while to talk through and solve. Probably.. bigger issues you really disagree with?

            I mainly just meant to ask if anyone's had any bigger.. conflicts than just small disagreements that are dealt with in a few minutes basically. Fights, arguments.. whatever you wanna call them

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              #7
              I've yet to have any huge fights with Reese. We've had a couple of misunderstandings that turned into small arguments, but they weren't anything huge.

              In the past I was in a relationship with a guy that I had huge fights with not occasionally, but every day. We were both just too stubborn and opinionated to agree on anything it would start off as something small and then one of us would say something that also seemed small, but was extremely hurtful. Once I was attempting to apologize over something I'd said because it had been mostly out of anger and I hadn't meant it but I said it anyway and I felt terrible for it and his response was he bet my mom's ex boyfriend never meant it either referring to something I'd told him and only him a year before that.

              Shortly after that we broke up because though I could handle most of the fighting because I did love him that stuck to me and was the first of many other things after that he did and said that I just couldn't forgive him for and that he refused to so much as apologize for. On the upside of that not so great experience I have learned not to say things out of anger when having a disagreement with my SO and to listen instead of just assuming things. Both of which were some major reasons for the downfall of the previous relationship I was just talking about.

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                #8
                We have had quite rough time with my BF lately. We've had some big fights, too, usually when we're both tired in the late evening... It's usually about if we are spending enough time with each other or not and that is because we miss each other so much and I'm especially feeling lonely very often because I miss him so much.

                I admit that I'm the one who's raising my voice and he's the more calm one. We both hate fighting but luckily we get them sorted out right away. Otherwise we're very happy together but it's just that we've both been quite stressed out lately. I guess we both have to learn some patience, too. I hate this and I hope it gets easier soon... Anyway, the main thing is that we always get the fights sorted out!
                How lucky I am to have something that makes saying good-bye so hard!

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                  #9
                  Hm, we both absolutely hate fighting. Whenever we do get in a fight or an argument, we try not to raise our voices. But we haven't had any big scream outs or anything like that. Just little disagreements that we get over

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                    #10
                    I left my marriage because of the screaming all out fights.

                    I won't do it with my love. I can't. I won't do drama anymore. I will walk away....I am too old for that....
                    NY to Texas Married on...August 17th, 2013

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                      #11
                      Fortunately, we've never had a bad fight. Just the occasional squabble that's over within minutes.


                      "If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.”
                      - A. A. Milne

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