Feeling needy?

[NikkiP]

I am just curious if you all sit there and think things sometimes and go "wow, that's really needy of me, I'm going to keep my mouth shut".

How do you deal with it?

Does your SO ever tell you that you're too needy?

[lisaar910]

I sometimes think I'm being too needy, but I'm extremely fortunate to have a SO who thinks it's cute and doesn't mind being on the receiving end of it. He's needy sometimes too, and I feel the same way. So it just works for us.

I think it's hard in a LDR not to be needy sometimes.

[LadyMarchHare]

I always feel like I'm needy, which I know really I'm not. I don't demand x amount of hours with him or gifts or texts or calls, but sometimes I feel like I'm just aggravating the tar out of him when I text 3 times a day instead of the usual 1.

[nicole]

I normally just keep my needyness to myself, as I know neither of us can do more then we already are, so there's no point wishing and wanting things which aren't going to happen.

Yesterday though he told me his friend from Chicago wants him to go out there for the 23rd. I have my big entrance exam on the 25th, which means I wouldn't see or have contact for 5 days, I asked him not to go because I needed him that weekend to stop me having a freakout.

I think that's the only time I've asked him to not go out and do something, I like for him do his own thing and give him space to breathe, so I was nervous of his reaction. He was actually quite pleased lol He likes to feel needed. I think so long as it isn't like constant nagging, it's nice to be like that once and a while- my SO has those outbursts a lot more then I do, I think he welcomed the change! lol

[Luisina]

Yeah, but my boyfriend likes to feel needed.. that's the way it's always been:
I'm the emotional, worrysome, girly pessimist... and he's.. well.. my rock

[MoonWatcher]

I almost always keep it to myself, but I'm pretty needy. I guess I'm with Nicole in the fact that there's really no point in bringing it up to make us both miserable in a situation we can't immediately fix. I also think it's partly my nature. I imagine though, once we're either more comfortable with that part of each other/we see each other, he will appreciate being needed but it will take him a bit to get used to

I actually think he's more vocal about his needs then I am. I'm always worried about sounding like a nag. Whereas he'll say specifically that he dreads when we have to say goodbye, he wishes he could just see me in the morning, he has to put himself back into reality that he's not going to see me for the remainder of the year (or so he THINKS... ). And around the time when we have to say goodbye on Skype, he'll do this whiny, little-kid type noise It's cute. And it does make me feel needed, which is incredibly awesome!

[Caitlin2009]

we both admit that were very spoiled because we like to talk on the phone for hours, we dont like to talk for minutes only so were kinda needy and spoiled in that aspect heh

[mattheww65]

Sometimes I feel needy, usually when I miss my Jenny lots. But I just bury it deep inside and try my hardest to be her rock. Someone for her to rely on, tell everything to and feel safe around

In my eyes that's the job of a good Long Distance Boyfriend, or even a close boyfriend. Always being there for your GF and not putting too much pressure on her...

[hxcbreakdance]

My boyfriend and I both have always been very clingy/want to be with each other 24/7 kinda thing but sometimes I do feel needy more on my end than his, we occasionally get frustrated with each other but we just talk it out and realize it's okay to feel that way sometimes. Talking always works best for me and SO when it comes to that!

[xNanax]

I'm very needy xD He sometimes tells me I am but in a teasing way. He thinks it's cute how needy and clingy I am. And whiney >.< He doesn't mind it. I do give him space when he needs it though. Like when he says he has studying to do or wants to go watch baseball, I whine a little but in a playful way and say ok, bye for now dear :3 <3 So yeah we're in a healthy spot when it comes to that

[mrsbubbles]

I'm needy but I've been trying to let go of it. My excessive need to hear from Idan has led me to be irritable. If he hasn't texted me all day, without thinking that MAYBE he was really super busy all day, I can get annoyed. But I've gotten better at that. Now he feels guilty when we don't skype every other day where I'm becoming a little more understanding. I do get paranoid that I may be annoying him but he insists I never do. Insecurities, I guess.

[xMesmerize124]

I can get super needy at times, and i just start complaining to my bf about how he needs to make more time for me haha. That typically doesn't end well when i do that, so nowadays i just suck it up and hope he will set aside some extra time for me sometime during the upcoming week

[Caidsys]

I don't think I'm needy so much as overly sensitive. I over analyze a lot and get very easily upset if I even sense a hint of annoyance or anger in well anyone's voice or messages, but especially Reese's. I'm getting better about it especially since generally I realize it's because he's multitasking and can only do so many things at once or is really irked with someone else. As far as neediness so far I can only think of one instance when I was being overly needy and Reese was really understanding and reassuring about it.

[Zephii]

I'm needy and a little high maintenance, and I'm ok with that. If I want more of something, more time, more cuddles, more sex, more random displays of love, I ask for it. We're both in this relationship to feel loved and fulfilled and have our needs met, so I don't feel the need to hold back. But, I'm willing to give as much as I ask too. I remind Obi that he can ask more of me too.

Occasionally I wished he would stay home with me (on skype) if I was sick or having trouble, and I held that in. I'd deal with it by doing something else, calling my sister or sleeping. I knew he'd home home to me afterward, and I could text him if I really truly needed help. But usually I'd only have a few hours to wait.
Other times I know I'm just being unreasonable, and I use logic to talk myself down and get a grip. (Like when he chooses to work shifts he doesn't need rather than being here with me)

We both know I'm needy and he reassures me that it's ok. He never says I'm too needy or pushes me away, and when I have valid concerns he addresses them. Sometimes I'm so needy and clingy I'll ask if he still loves me (even if he told me five minutes ago) or I'll flat-out ask for reassurance, and he'll think for a moment and then say something sweet to bring me 'back to normal'.

[bekah]

I just started a LDR with a guy i've known for 3 years and it's moving terribly fast, which i'm ohk with. He is very busy int he military with school and work and pt and everything, and i feel so desperately needy sometimes. Like when he says he's going for a run and then doesnt reply for 6 hours i get terribly annoyed and a little worried. Then come to find out.. he went to study right after his run. He is not allowed to have his phone on him at school/work/or where he studies cause it's all classified or secret info, so i should not get annoyed, how do i teach myself patience on this one?