ge of both you and your ex: I am 22, he is 20.
Length of the relationship: 4 months when we broke up.
Describe your relationship history together: A very intense history. I was studying abroad in Australia and met him in May. Basically after a week of knowing each other, we became involved. He said I love you within a couple of weeks, I met his family, went on holiday with him etc. From the very beginning we were unsure about what to do when I would leave - we were both scared about LDR, but a couple of months or so before I left we decided to give it a go because we loved each other a lot and thought it would be stupid to give up on something special despite our fears (first serious relationship for both of us).
When I left, we were determined to make it work and said we would do whatever it took.
Their reason for breaking up: the distance and uncertainty over the future. I am in USA at the moment finishing up my last year at university and he is in his first year back in Australia. I was scared about being in a LDR for a few years and told him so, but I wanted to make it work. But 6 weeks after we had been apart physically, he said that he loved me and missed me, but LDR was getting too hard for him, he felt that he was not as close to me anymore (and that he didnt think we could fix it). When 20 mins before he had been telling me that a lDR wasnt ideal but unavoidable, but after I told him how hard it was some days I guess he changed his mind. And he didnt know what country I would be living in after graduation, (since I dont think I can end up in Australia right after graduation), when we would become a normal couple etc. Also he thought that even if we did last till the distance ended, we might want different things out of life so we might not be happy together (He wants kids, I am on the fence about this atm for instance). I was planning on visiting in 8 months and we were both really excited - but I dont know whats wrong. I thought it was because he might need physical intimacy - and we did discuss and rejected the notion of an open relationship.
We aren't talking at the moment because I needed space. But I want him in my life as a friend and he wants it too, But really I want to get back together with him. But the distance is clearly going to be a factor - I am willing to be in a LDR for a few years till we are in a more stable point in our lives and can end up together, and he was willing to be in one too before I left. And the distance isn't going to end anytime soon. So should I even try to get him back? If so - is there anyway to convince him again that a LDR can and does work? Or should I just let it go since he hasnt made any move to contact me and doesnt think he can do long distance? Very confused. Thanks for any help!
Length of the relationship: 4 months when we broke up.
Describe your relationship history together: A very intense history. I was studying abroad in Australia and met him in May. Basically after a week of knowing each other, we became involved. He said I love you within a couple of weeks, I met his family, went on holiday with him etc. From the very beginning we were unsure about what to do when I would leave - we were both scared about LDR, but a couple of months or so before I left we decided to give it a go because we loved each other a lot and thought it would be stupid to give up on something special despite our fears (first serious relationship for both of us).
When I left, we were determined to make it work and said we would do whatever it took.
Their reason for breaking up: the distance and uncertainty over the future. I am in USA at the moment finishing up my last year at university and he is in his first year back in Australia. I was scared about being in a LDR for a few years and told him so, but I wanted to make it work. But 6 weeks after we had been apart physically, he said that he loved me and missed me, but LDR was getting too hard for him, he felt that he was not as close to me anymore (and that he didnt think we could fix it). When 20 mins before he had been telling me that a lDR wasnt ideal but unavoidable, but after I told him how hard it was some days I guess he changed his mind. And he didnt know what country I would be living in after graduation, (since I dont think I can end up in Australia right after graduation), when we would become a normal couple etc. Also he thought that even if we did last till the distance ended, we might want different things out of life so we might not be happy together (He wants kids, I am on the fence about this atm for instance). I was planning on visiting in 8 months and we were both really excited - but I dont know whats wrong. I thought it was because he might need physical intimacy - and we did discuss and rejected the notion of an open relationship.
We aren't talking at the moment because I needed space. But I want him in my life as a friend and he wants it too, But really I want to get back together with him. But the distance is clearly going to be a factor - I am willing to be in a LDR for a few years till we are in a more stable point in our lives and can end up together, and he was willing to be in one too before I left. And the distance isn't going to end anytime soon. So should I even try to get him back? If so - is there anyway to convince him again that a LDR can and does work? Or should I just let it go since he hasnt made any move to contact me and doesnt think he can do long distance? Very confused. Thanks for any help!
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