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    What I do at 3am when I'm missing my SO

    I am still struggling to breathe after having my SO here for an entire month. The tears still come and I can't sleep without him. 3 weeks tomorrow he left, and I'm no closer to feeling normal that I was at day 2. Usually I'm on the upswing in a week, and almost normal by the second week. Having an entire month together instead of the usual 2 weeks was amazing. Unfortunately the extended time allowed us to feel like we had a 'home' together, and the pain is unimaginable at the moment. This is what I do when I can't sleep at 3am, it says all the things I need to tell myself, and the things I have to remind him of as he is struggling with this pain as well. I had to redo it twice because of sleep deprived typo's..there's still one.. but you get the idea.


    Everything I know, and anywhere I go, It gets hard but it won't take away my love,
    And when the last one falls, when it's all said and done, It gets hard but it won't take away my love

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    Me without Him is like Son of Beast without the loop.

    #2
    I just came back from a month-long visit a week and a half ago, I know how you feel, it's so damn hard. Your video is so touching, I hope it helps you both. I write letters, some I send and some I don't, but the process feels good and helps me sleep.
    Our separation of each other is an optical illusion of consciousness. ~Albert Einstein

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      #3
      I can relate. I was over there for over two months and it took me a long time to get back to normal I think it's also worse when your SO is the one who leaves. It leaves a hole in your home and your life and the absence of the other becomes even more apparent.
      I don't think there is another way but to walk through the pain. But eventually you'll start feeling better, i promise. Your video is amazing, almost made me cry.

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        #4
        My SO will have been CD for 3 months by the end of the first week of August. Then we won't see each other for a semester, and this upcoming semester will be the hardest of all, as I will be interning. Scared is an understatement. But going from seeing each other and talking whenever to not talking as much and being WAY too busy with internship is gonna put a stress on our relationship =/. Either way, going from 3 months of together back to LD...I'm literally agonizing over it...

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          #5
          Everytime I feel a lots of pain after I leave my SO. But I think it is more painful you are left. Everything in your place must remind you happy days with your SO. I agree with Moon and writing letters helps you. It takes time but you will be better. Take care.

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            #6
            I do wake up in the middle of the night cryin lately.
            Yeah, I miss him ^__^
            I understand that feel...
            ♡ ~~~~ 'When you find something worth fighting for, you never give up' ~~~~ ♡

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              #7
              I'm the same way. Waking up at 3am (or anytime), missing him. I just roll over and look at his picture, smile, maybe cry because I can't hug him, and I usually fall back asleep. We see each other every 2 weeks, but those days in between are so long!!

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                #8
                If I wake in the middle of the night I just listen to his breathing on Skype. He may not be with me but it makes me feel closer.

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                  #9
                  Beautiful. Not sure if it's just the usual emotional me, or the pre wedding emotions...but I sit here bawling.

                  I love you friend.
                  NY to Texas Married on...August 17th, 2013

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                    #10
                    Thank you for sharing this <3

                    I just got back yesterday after a three week visit, the longest we had yet. We also felt like we had a home and a routine built, even in such a short time. In our relationship it's always harder for the one left behind, and he's currently struggling with the feelings of loss and disruption even more than me, because he has all the physical reminders that I'm gone. It took all the strength I had in me to leave. It's never been this tough before.

                    Like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. - Steve Jobs

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                      #11
                      Originally posted by Malaga View Post
                      Thank you for sharing this <3

                      I just got back yesterday after a three week visit, the longest we had yet. We also felt like we had a home and a routine built, even in such a short time. In our relationship it's always harder for the one left behind, and he's currently struggling with the feelings of loss and disruption even more than me, because he has all the physical reminders that I'm gone. It took all the strength I had in me to leave. It's never been this tough before.
                      oh no! This kind of scares me. I'm going to spend 2 solid weeks with him in October and I just know it will be so hard to leave. We will be in the "home & routine" mode as well. With him going to work and me being there when he gets home. I have trouble leaving after even just a couple days together, I'm not looking forward to leaving him after 2 weeks. But, hopefully, we'll be closing our distance next year if everything goes our way!

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                        #12
                        Originally posted by Kiyama View Post
                        I think it's also worse when your SO is the one who leaves. It leaves a hole in your home and your life and the absence of the other becomes even more apparent.
                        This times a million Everything reminds me of him. My friends and I are going into the city on Sunday...our plans? To do everything I did with my SO when he visited..and I mean everything :/

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