I'm posting this here because while I see a lot of threads like this, most come from teenagers or 20 year olds. I'm about to be 27 and while logic tells me I shouldn't be *this* terrified, I am.
I'm a grown woman, I've been on my own since I was 19, married and divorced, and I'm having the mother of all anxiety attacks about telling my dad I'm leaving the country. I have to think somewhere deep down he knows. He's met Luke, knows how I feel about him, I've made it very apparent we're in this for the long haul, so he has to know someone is moving. And he knows Luke has a child which means there's no way he can reasonably move here.
My dad's 70. He had me late in life, I have a half sister who's 16 years older than I am. She lives nearby with her family. My dad also has a girlfriend (who I hate but that's another story), his mom, his siblings, and friends all around to support him and help him out with whatever he needs. Still, historically speaking, it's usually me. So I'm finding myself so so worried about who's going to be be around to go to lunch with him or pick him up when needed from the doctor's. He's perfectly functional, just has some health issues that require treatment every now and again. Mostly, though I'm just worried he's going to be lonely. Although of course I'll call and skype and visit as much as possible. And I *know* my sister will pick up everything. She'll always be there for him, to visit and whatever else he needs. So it's not that he'll be alone. He just won't have me. And maybe I'm being narcissistic, but I think I'm pretty important to his life.
I also dread telling him because I know what I'm going to hear. That I'm crazy, that it won't work, etc... He said all this about my best friend when she moved across the world for love. But my dad has had a craaaaazy past. He's done whatever he wants his whole life, without giving two thoughts to how they impact other people. This is my sore spot about the girlfriend. But I feel like he of all people should understand my need to do things my way and to make my own way in life.
I have to tell him this week or next. Thanksgiving is coming up and I know my other family will ask and I can't lie. But I'm finding myself in full on freak out mode and when I pick up the phone to call and ask him to come over so we can talk, I chicken out. I don't really know what I'm looking for here. To vent, words of encouragement, who knows? But thanks for reading.
I'm a grown woman, I've been on my own since I was 19, married and divorced, and I'm having the mother of all anxiety attacks about telling my dad I'm leaving the country. I have to think somewhere deep down he knows. He's met Luke, knows how I feel about him, I've made it very apparent we're in this for the long haul, so he has to know someone is moving. And he knows Luke has a child which means there's no way he can reasonably move here.
My dad's 70. He had me late in life, I have a half sister who's 16 years older than I am. She lives nearby with her family. My dad also has a girlfriend (who I hate but that's another story), his mom, his siblings, and friends all around to support him and help him out with whatever he needs. Still, historically speaking, it's usually me. So I'm finding myself so so worried about who's going to be be around to go to lunch with him or pick him up when needed from the doctor's. He's perfectly functional, just has some health issues that require treatment every now and again. Mostly, though I'm just worried he's going to be lonely. Although of course I'll call and skype and visit as much as possible. And I *know* my sister will pick up everything. She'll always be there for him, to visit and whatever else he needs. So it's not that he'll be alone. He just won't have me. And maybe I'm being narcissistic, but I think I'm pretty important to his life.
I also dread telling him because I know what I'm going to hear. That I'm crazy, that it won't work, etc... He said all this about my best friend when she moved across the world for love. But my dad has had a craaaaazy past. He's done whatever he wants his whole life, without giving two thoughts to how they impact other people. This is my sore spot about the girlfriend. But I feel like he of all people should understand my need to do things my way and to make my own way in life.
I have to tell him this week or next. Thanksgiving is coming up and I know my other family will ask and I can't lie. But I'm finding myself in full on freak out mode and when I pick up the phone to call and ask him to come over so we can talk, I chicken out. I don't really know what I'm looking for here. To vent, words of encouragement, who knows? But thanks for reading.
I'll let you all know how it goes when I do tell him....hoping it's not too awful!
But that's my dad. Overall, I'm happy with how it turned out and feel like now I can really start preparing to leave!!
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