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    30+ Don't know what I should do, advice wanted!

    This is the first time I'm posting on this site, so first I would like to say hello.
    I first met my SO a year ago while we were taking a class. I'm 28 and he's 33. During this time I was married and so we were just friends. A month ago I told him that I liked him and he said he liked me too. I finished the class there and moved to the other side of the country to stay with my parents. While I had been married (for five years) I had been a housewife with some part time work and he had been in school while working, so I have little money. The plan is that I'm going to work while staying at my parents to save up, and then move back.
    Where I need the advice is this:
    Our relationship isn't defined. The time after I left my husband and before I flew out I lived with him. We keep in touch via text and Skype on an almost daily basis, and I'm happy with that. But I've realized that he's not the type to bring up relationship issues. I don't want to push too hard, but we need to talk about it. Any advice?

    #2
    Just ask. This seems to be one of the most stressing and put off conversations in relationship history. Really, you can't know where your relationship stands unless you talk about it. You won't have the label that you want unless you bring it up. Don't wait on someone to bring up the conversation who may never do so, take initiative and bring it up yourself. You can do it. Besides, if he is as interested as being with you as you are in being with him then you really have nothing to worry about. ^_^;
    "Babe, I'm totally murdering everyone in this building right now! ... You would be so proud of me."
    This. This is only one of the reasons that I love this man. XD



    "I'll surrender up my heart and swap it for yours."
    Por siempre, mi amor. ♥

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      #3
      Men are not as communicative as us. Have you ever seen that picture where the couple is sitting on the couch and the girlfriend thinks he doesn't love her anymore because he's not paying attention? In reality he is trying to figure out why he can't fix his motorcyle. Men are visual creatures and yes they have emotions too but not nearly as intense as we do as women. We ruminate and ponder and worry and wonder when we are not busy. Men do these things as well but not nearly as often or as intense. What I would do is take a deep breath and ask him politely but directly how he feels about the distance. Would he like to close it? What is his plan in the next 6 months for his life and see if he mentions you.

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