we sang the song.... and now it's finished

[ttfit2]

So sorry to hear it.

[Carenza LaRue]

mmm.... don't know what to think about it.

we talk..... but still, both of us have been hurt by the things said and done.

we agreed to still be friends..... and see where it takes us from here.
no promises.

no official 'couple' status....

but it's a start.... isn't it? so, what should I do next?
he is more cautious than I am, I tend to move on, forget what happened and dive into the new opportunity that has been given.... but he doesn't seem that keen on doing the same... though he still wants to keep in touch. he says: it is what it is, let's take it from here.

is that a good thing? cause right now, I have no clue what is best.... stay put, and wait for him..... or REALLY move on?

and thanks peeps, for your support.

[Moon]

mmm.... don't know what to think about it.

we talk..... but still, both of us have been hurt by the things said and done.

we agreed to still be friends..... and see where it takes us from here.
no promises.

no official 'couple' status....

but it's a start.... isn't it? so, what should I do next?
he is more cautious than I am, I tend to move on, forget what happened and dive into the new opportunity that has been given.... but he doesn't seem that keen on doing the same... though he still wants to keep in touch. he says: it is what it is, let's take it from here.

is that a good thing? cause right now, I have no clue what is best.... stay put, and wait for him..... or REALLY move on?

and thanks peeps, for your support.

I don't think there's anything wrong with giving him time to get things figured out, if it feels right to you, just don't let it be indefinite. Maybe decide on how long you can realistically put up with the uncertainty, and give yourself a time limit for how long you're willing to wait, and see how it goes. These international relationships can get confusing, and seem impossible at times, especially when you're a bit older and have a million other responsibilities to consider, so I can understand having some reluctance. But reluctance is one thing, and keeping you hanging is something else, so don't allow yourself to get stuck waiting around too long.

Good luck, I sincerely hope you find a way to work it out.

[Carenza LaRue]

I don't think there's anything wrong with giving him time to get things figured out, if it feels right to you, just don't let it be indefinite. Maybe decide on how long you can realistically put up with the uncertainty, and give yourself a time limit for how long you're willing to wait, and see how it goes. These international relationships can get confusing, and seem impossible at times, especially when you're a bit older and have a million other responsibilities to consider, so I can understand having some reluctance. But reluctance is one thing, and keeping you hanging is something else, so don't allow yourself to get stuck waiting around too long.

Good luck, I sincerely hope you find a way to work it out.

good advice Moon..... thanks.

I just send him an email.... I hope to talk to him later, but I wanted time for me to put my thoughts in order and email works best for me then.... no interruptions and stuff...

I told him about my uncertainties and awkward feelings. Hope it helps.
he is very cautious and built up these walls around him for protection against a new heart ache.

I told him I understood.... but that I wouldn't wait for ever and that it's time to speak his mind about 'us'
cause I don't see the need in keeping me hanging on.

thanks again!

[Carenza LaRue]

yup....

definitely working our ways back to where we were.... slowly.... but surely.

couldn't be more happier....

[Zephii]

Glad to hear things are slowly on the mend, perhaps this is what was needed... the fire to make space for new growth. Look after yourself.

[Carenza LaRue]

thanks zephii..... will do that.

yeah, maybe it was needed.

I guess it's safe to say, I learned a lot about myself over the last couple of weeks...

amazing really, that I have to learn all this with a man living 4000 miles away from me....

[dragonlady]

yeah life is strange
my SO and i had the same problems hurt so much that we didnt know if we wanted to take the change again, but where not giving up on love in our life's
don't let the fear of striking you out, keep you from playing the game.
what i try to say is he could hide him self in a hole but don't really live or he can take a part of life and take the risk of getting hurt.
sometimes people need to hear that to remember that they have to move on instead of standing still