My first post so please be gentle......
My girlfriend and I have been corresponding by email, chatting on Skype and on the phone since September last year. We get on really, really well despite the huge distance involved which has from time to time threatened to break us up. We are mature (me 62 and her 49) and so thought we could be level headed and serious...no, we are never serious...laughter is a main thread running through our relationship....but serious and sensible when we met for the first time.
She came to stay with me a couple of weeks ago and for 95% of the time it went so well, despite having about 60cm of snow while she was here which stranded us in the house for a couple of days. But I think we kind of jumped ahead too much and made unrealistic expectations of each other and what should happen during a visit of just over a week. At no time did we fall out and we were very close, kissing and cuddling all the time right until we said goodbye at the airport.
Now that she is back home and we have begun chatting again she has asked that for now we are friends and to see what happens. She feels that maybe neither of us are ready to begin another relationship. I've been widowed for 4 years (having been together with my late wife for 10 years) and she has been divorced for 9 years. We both love each other I'm sure and I've suggested going to see her later in the year. However, I'm scared of being too pushy and am desperate not to lose her. Things have resumed more or less as they were before we met and we are very affectionate when we chat. I was hoping that things would be different and better if I stayed with her and we went on holiday for a week. I'd feel less pressure and anxiety plus being a widower, I hadn't reckoned on how influential my late wife would be on me here, so thought a change of location would help. Though I'm open to advice and suggestions this is more of a post to seek reassurance that it can work out..
My girlfriend and I have been corresponding by email, chatting on Skype and on the phone since September last year. We get on really, really well despite the huge distance involved which has from time to time threatened to break us up. We are mature (me 62 and her 49) and so thought we could be level headed and serious...no, we are never serious...laughter is a main thread running through our relationship....but serious and sensible when we met for the first time.
She came to stay with me a couple of weeks ago and for 95% of the time it went so well, despite having about 60cm of snow while she was here which stranded us in the house for a couple of days. But I think we kind of jumped ahead too much and made unrealistic expectations of each other and what should happen during a visit of just over a week. At no time did we fall out and we were very close, kissing and cuddling all the time right until we said goodbye at the airport.
Now that she is back home and we have begun chatting again she has asked that for now we are friends and to see what happens. She feels that maybe neither of us are ready to begin another relationship. I've been widowed for 4 years (having been together with my late wife for 10 years) and she has been divorced for 9 years. We both love each other I'm sure and I've suggested going to see her later in the year. However, I'm scared of being too pushy and am desperate not to lose her. Things have resumed more or less as they were before we met and we are very affectionate when we chat. I was hoping that things would be different and better if I stayed with her and we went on holiday for a week. I'd feel less pressure and anxiety plus being a widower, I hadn't reckoned on how influential my late wife would be on me here, so thought a change of location would help. Though I'm open to advice and suggestions this is more of a post to seek reassurance that it can work out..
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