So I am very new and fresh to LDR. You can actually say that this is my first serious LDR. All the others were just talking and nothing more, no real emotions involved but this one is different. There are real emotions involved (at least from my side there is) and he says from his side there is too. When we first started this I was very clear that if at any moment he wasn't sure of this to tell me and we would end it. He told me he was absolutely sure this is what he wanted and I was sure as well. We would talk constantly everyday, we would Skype, text all the time. I always got those good morning text, I miss you, I love you text messages out of the blue. We got to be really close. He would always tell me his feelings for me all the time and we saw each other last month. But ever since I came back from seeing him things have changed. The text messages are less, we talk maybe once or twice a day. We don't Skype anymore. He says that the reason we don't Skype is because it hurts him to see me and want me so much and know he can't have me there with him at the time. He no longer texts me in the morning. He hardly texts me at all. When we do talk it is for a brief moment and he gets a phone call and never calls back. I know he is very dedicated and his family depends on him a lot. He did mention that it is his blessing and his curse at the same time. My family depend on me as well a lot but I am a little more free from them then he is from his. When I did go visit him he could only spend a couple of hours with me each day due to the fact that he is a single father. I accept that because I too am a single parent though my situation is completely different from his when it comes to that. But now since I have come back from seeing him, he is no longer available to talk as much, like I mentioned he always gets a phone call while we are talking and has to go. Never calls back and if he does he will call back hours later. We don't Skype anymore because of what he said and if we do Skype it is for a brief moment of maybe 10 or 20 minutes. I no longer get text messages. If I don't text him first, the he won't text. When he does text he answers hours later. I feel like I have been put on the back burner of things. When I do confront him on these things, he will change for maybe a day or two and then back to his old ways. I use to sell cars before and when he was planning on getting a new car he would call all the time to ask me to negotiate his deals for him. He was all nice and loving. Before he asked me to marry him and every time I said yes, now he hardly even says I love you or even asks or mentions it. He claims he hasn't changed and that he is dealing with a lot with his family yet he won't talk to me like he use too. 
Kind of makes me wonder sometimes. I am feeling him really distant emotionally not just physically. My mind is wondering and taking me down a path I really don't want to go down in this LDR. I want to stay positive and always look on the bright side and give the benefit of the doubt but that is kind of hard to do when I keep looking at all these "signs". I already booked my flight and hotel stay to go see him on the 24th of this month. He didn't even seem excited when I told him, in my eyes he took it as if any old friend was coming along to visit. I decided to go see him even with everything I am feeling to see for myself if this is even worth saving or if there is still anything there. He says that this visit will be good for us. I am starting to doubt that and doubt this relationship. We have had a rough last two weeks, maybe this is just the after effect. I really don't know what to think. I love this man with all my heart and I don't want to seem like the nagging SO but I just needed to get this off my chest. I have decided though that when I do go on the 24th that me and him do need to sit down and see if we are both in this together or what. I wrote a memo on my phone on all the things I want to say and topics I want to talk about since then I will have him face to face maybe he won't be able to avoid the topic of our relationship like he does on the phone. I am starting to think that this isn't going to last much longer and we all know how the mind can play with you when you are in a LDR. I guess what I was looking for was a place to get this off of my chest and vent it out. Looking for a way to make this LDR better and how to talk it through without making him feel that I am doubting him. I just feel really lost and alone and distance physically and emotionally isn't helping either.
Kind of makes me wonder sometimes. I am feeling him really distant emotionally not just physically. My mind is wondering and taking me down a path I really don't want to go down in this LDR. I want to stay positive and always look on the bright side and give the benefit of the doubt but that is kind of hard to do when I keep looking at all these "signs". I already booked my flight and hotel stay to go see him on the 24th of this month. He didn't even seem excited when I told him, in my eyes he took it as if any old friend was coming along to visit. I decided to go see him even with everything I am feeling to see for myself if this is even worth saving or if there is still anything there. He says that this visit will be good for us. I am starting to doubt that and doubt this relationship. We have had a rough last two weeks, maybe this is just the after effect. I really don't know what to think. I love this man with all my heart and I don't want to seem like the nagging SO but I just needed to get this off my chest. I have decided though that when I do go on the 24th that me and him do need to sit down and see if we are both in this together or what. I wrote a memo on my phone on all the things I want to say and topics I want to talk about since then I will have him face to face maybe he won't be able to avoid the topic of our relationship like he does on the phone. I am starting to think that this isn't going to last much longer and we all know how the mind can play with you when you are in a LDR. I guess what I was looking for was a place to get this off of my chest and vent it out. Looking for a way to make this LDR better and how to talk it through without making him feel that I am doubting him. I just feel really lost and alone and distance physically and emotionally isn't helping either.
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