30+ Been Broken Up For Almost A Year But Reunion Is Practically Here

[FierceFoxie]

I first came to this board last April and quickly all of my posts were showing the demise of my LDR because we ended up splitting last May and I still don't even know why. Three months after we split up (we were completely cut off from one another. No contact at all) but I saw him pass me on the freeway one day so I sent him a quick email. We got back in touch and he had announced he was moving closer to me (we were 3 hours apart before). We did this stupid dance for the next 5 months where we would be in constant communication, he would ask to see me and then he wouldn't contact me for 3 weeks. All the while, I never went to his place. I found out he had been lying to me and was living with his ex-gf before me. He moved out of her place in December but she continued to use Facebook as a weapon to make me believe there was something going on there between them. I was really upset with him for not just saying something to her or unfriending her from his FB. She started posting photos of them and Facebook check-ins with him around that time. I cut myself off from him completely. I was so hurt but yet I couldn't get over him. I went on dates and every man was getting worse in worse in quality or no attraction.

We stopped talking for another 2 months and then about a month ago, he reached out to me. She is completely out of the picture now and he swears he was not romantically involved with her, although she wanted more. He said they lived as roommates which his dad did confirm to me awhile back saying that he slept in his own room there at the house etc. We have been communicating nearly every day and have seen each other at least once a week. We have had our boys meet up once during that time too. I last saw him a few nights ago and he suggested we go away together and rent a cabin in the next few weeks.

We're no longer long distance but we aren't exactly labeled bf and gf. I am fine with how things are moving and things seem to be better this time so far.

[kruemmel375]

I really hope that things work out for you this time. You are lucky to get another chance. I'm sure the time apart helped you both realize what you want and what you don't want. You two split for a reason before though and I think that if it was just the distance you've got a great shot, however, it there was more going on that he didn't tell you, I think you should ask those hard questions before you get back into things. I am hoping that down the road I can get back with my boyfriend, but it's still raw only being less than a week since the breakup.
Good luck and keep us posted!

[ThePiedPiper]

I don't trust this one given his history and assuming this is the same person with whom you struggled so much when you were a member here previously. Please be careful, and I hope that you have both finally learned to communicate with one another, because that was a massive issue from both ends. Good luck, but keep your eyes open and be mindful of what might or might not have brought about this change. Sometimes it's not fate that brings two people together but their inability to let go of something toxic.

[digitalfever]

He sounds shady and should be treated as such.

[Kiyama]

I don't trust this one given his history and assuming this is the same person with whom you struggled so much when you were a member here previously. Please be careful, and I hope that you have both finally learned to communicate with one another, because that was a massive issue from both ends. Good luck, but keep your eyes open and be mindful of what might or might not have brought about this change. Sometimes it's not fate that brings two people together but their inability to let go of something toxic.

Exactly what I thought when read your post
I want to add that I think it's highly unlikely you'll be happy with him long term. He hurt you once and lied to you. How will you ever be able to trust him again?